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Whether we agree or not, LOVE is a defining factor in everybody's life. Whatever, race, religion or culture we come from. When we discover a place where we can find solace, love and comfort, it breaks down all our barriers and we tend to be very attracted to it. When we are given a chance to express those feelings, by fear of our own lack of capacity or some societal standards, we become defensive and judgemental. Then we find something or someone to blame as an exit strategy.
Regardless or our status or qualifications, rich or poor, fame or not, we all have one breaking force: LOVE, which brings out our most sensitive, insecure and unexpected side besides the undescribable bliss that comes with it. Therefore, permit me to say, There is no such thing as a "Perfect man" or a "Perfect woman". However, we can chose to define our value of perfection based on our needs.
If we learn to love what we hate in our partner, it will help us understand them better, and deal with the situation much easier when ever it arises. That one person we usually love to hate so much, who is the reason for all our problems and all our friends and family know them to be inhuman and not deserving of love, will be seen sooner or later in a thriving relationship. Why? They will either learn to deal with their problems or find someone who will understand them and deal with their short comings or both.
Again, if we learn to love what we hate in our partner, it will help us understand them better and deal with the situation much easier. That is one of the greatest compromise in a relationship.
I say this because when we remove the word "EXPECTATION" from the equation, all we have left is someone who wants to be genuinely loved and understood in the way THEY know it to be and not just OUR way. Most of the time we speak the same thing in different languages and character.
Now I am sure that statement comes with a lot of concern and difference in situations. Still I would say, even the biggest player or cheat, the worse criminal, that angry and obnoxious person, the biggest idiot...you name it. All of these people want love and they will give it if ONLY they understood how to get it.
Have you not that it is hard for some people to recieve a huge gift from someone when they know they will hardly be able to afford such a gift to another.
One of our biggest problem is relationships is the "ME" factor.
What to I get, my needs, my image, my feelings...Yes we need to be acknowledged in our relationships and that is why we get into them in the first place. Its all tied in one twisted form of GIVING.
In my experience, Love is about giving without expecting something back. What a joke right?
Don't read too far from the statement. It does not mean we will not get something back. It just means that what we do not define what we recieve in our own terms. It is usually a common reciprocal but the unxpected is often more beautiful than the expected (which is hardly satisfactory).
Giving is like sowing a seed and watching it grow until harvest.
I will elaborate on that in a future update.
At The Love Lounge, we will touch on some of the most sensitive and commonly ignored issues in relationships such as;
- Dealing with our own insecurities and challenges without playing the blame game
- Loving someone even though you know they are not right for you
- Staying in abused relationships
- Why should I forgive so many times
- Single parent dating
- Inter racial dating
- Is it Love or just infatuation?
- Loving yourself
- When the sparks are gone
- Career women and men with lower income
- Imposed perks and societal standards we are forced to live with
- When trus is lost
- The games WE play
- Weight issues, health and wellness in relationships.
- Accumulated anger and frustrations
...and so forth
Please follow this blog and share your thoughts. We will glad to answer any questions you may have. Your suggestions are always welcome.
You can also email your questions (if you do not want them featured on the blog) to
joinanze@gmail.com
Stay connected.
Whether we agree or not, LOVE is a defining factor in everybody's life. Whatever, race, religion or culture we come from. When we discover a place where we can find solace, love and comfort, it breaks down all our barriers and we tend to be very attracted to it. When we are given a chance to express those feelings, by fear of our own lack of capacity or some societal standards, we become defensive and judgemental. Then we find something or someone to blame as an exit strategy.
Regardless or our status or qualifications, rich or poor, fame or not, we all have one breaking force: LOVE, which brings out our most sensitive, insecure and unexpected side besides the undescribable bliss that comes with it. Therefore, permit me to say, There is no such thing as a "Perfect man" or a "Perfect woman". However, we can chose to define our value of perfection based on our needs.
If we learn to love what we hate in our partner, it will help us understand them better, and deal with the situation much easier when ever it arises. That one person we usually love to hate so much, who is the reason for all our problems and all our friends and family know them to be inhuman and not deserving of love, will be seen sooner or later in a thriving relationship. Why? They will either learn to deal with their problems or find someone who will understand them and deal with their short comings or both.
Again, if we learn to love what we hate in our partner, it will help us understand them better and deal with the situation much easier. That is one of the greatest compromise in a relationship.
I say this because when we remove the word "EXPECTATION" from the equation, all we have left is someone who wants to be genuinely loved and understood in the way THEY know it to be and not just OUR way. Most of the time we speak the same thing in different languages and character.
Now I am sure that statement comes with a lot of concern and difference in situations. Still I would say, even the biggest player or cheat, the worse criminal, that angry and obnoxious person, the biggest idiot...you name it. All of these people want love and they will give it if ONLY they understood how to get it.
Have you not that it is hard for some people to recieve a huge gift from someone when they know they will hardly be able to afford such a gift to another.
One of our biggest problem is relationships is the "ME" factor.
What to I get, my needs, my image, my feelings...Yes we need to be acknowledged in our relationships and that is why we get into them in the first place. Its all tied in one twisted form of GIVING.
In my experience, Love is about giving without expecting something back. What a joke right?
Don't read too far from the statement. It does not mean we will not get something back. It just means that what we do not define what we recieve in our own terms. It is usually a common reciprocal but the unxpected is often more beautiful than the expected (which is hardly satisfactory).
Giving is like sowing a seed and watching it grow until harvest.
I will elaborate on that in a future update.
At The Love Lounge, we will touch on some of the most sensitive and commonly ignored issues in relationships such as;
- Dealing with our own insecurities and challenges without playing the blame game
- Loving someone even though you know they are not right for you
- Staying in abused relationships
- Why should I forgive so many times
- Single parent dating
- Inter racial dating
- Is it Love or just infatuation?
- Loving yourself
- When the sparks are gone
- Career women and men with lower income
- Imposed perks and societal standards we are forced to live with
- When trus is lost
- The games WE play
- Weight issues, health and wellness in relationships.
- Accumulated anger and frustrations
...and so forth
Please follow this blog and share your thoughts. We will glad to answer any questions you may have. Your suggestions are always welcome.
You can also email your questions (if you do not want them featured on the blog) to
joinanze@gmail.com
Stay connected.
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