After being happily married for 32 years, Dr. Phil shares some of his thoughts about what makes a marriage work.
The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.
You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.
If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.
Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?
There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.
Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.
You don't fix things by fixing your partner.
Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.
You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.
Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.
You teach people how to treat you. You can renegotiate the rules
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Is anyone ever ready for a serious relationship? How does this work? How does one really know? You think you are, meet a person who you come to not like and turned off of relationships for a long time. Or your out doing your thing and the love bug unexpectantly bites you...and suddenly your off the single-ready-to-mingle radar!
At a certain time in life it becomes more of an issue of: are you willing to open up and share yourself, make sacrifices, let many fun/adventurous things go to gain a few unvaluable ones with one person, connect on numerous levels-even if your not into what the other person is into...at least be supportive and willing to participate-on some level, stick around... even in the worst of times, etc? Those are the questions to ask yourself.
and the more puzzling thing is you will be willing to do this with one person but not another.
So "ready for a successful relationship" is not my approach. But meeting someone who I can connect with on the above levels is more "me". The rest will fall in place...with time.
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