How to strengthen your relationship and make love last

Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad:

What makes a healthy love relationship?

* Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.
* Getting through conflict. Some couples talk things out quietly, while others may raise their voices and passionately disagree. The key in a strong relationship, through, is not to be fearful of conflict. You need to be safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation or insisting on being right.
* Keeping outside relationships and interests alive. No one person can meet all of our needs, and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship, too.
* Communicating. Honest, direct communication is a key part of any relationship. When both people feel comfortable expressing their needs, fears and desires, trust and bonds are strengthened. Critical to communication are nonverbal cues—body language like eye contact, leaning forward or away, or touching someone’s arm.

KNOWING WHEN TO LET GO…

I think that we women have to start slowing down and really pay attention to what’s happening with us. We can’t let our biological clocks dictate who we end up with. Just because we think we should be married with children by a certain age doesn’t mean that life is actually going to work out that way. In our day and age when women are just as busy as the men, and putting their careers before they decide on starting a family, marriage and children seem to come a lot later than the old days. But ladies, once we have reached where we want to be in life, and we start that pursuit of finding the best suited man, give yourself time to really test a person and make sure that what you want is what you get. Sometimes the best gifts aren’t always in the prettiest wrapping paper. Have you ever reached into a box of chocolates and you bite in it to find that it wasn’t filled with chewy caramel and nuts like you wanted, but it was a bitter chocolate with something not so good in the middle? Don’t let that be the tale of your love life.

I am a firm believer that with every action there is a reaction as well as everything happens for a reason. When ladies reach a certain age we start getting the “itch” the “wedding itch” and the “baby itch” and when we don’t have those things, we start looking for prospects. In that process of narrowing down prospects that we would consider marriage and children with we look at our immediate resources, someone from our past, people we’re currently dating and maybe even our co-workers or maybe friends to hook us up. In that group, we weed out the good from the bad and hone in on our prey. And sometimes we get so caught up in our search to satisfy that “itch” that we pick what we think is right but in fact if we were really paying attention, we’d realize that it really wasn’t.

I am a Jealous girlfriend!!!!!

I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now…about 1 yr & 4months.we dated about 3 months (too soon maybe?) after a bad breakup where the guy cheated on me & that took sometime to really heal. I am 28my current boyfriend is 30. He hasnt been anything but good to me in everyway. The truth is he’s my heart. He has alot of friends who are girls and it drives me nuts. They always drop messages on his facebook wall.I have never met them except for three of them…but of course he talks about them…alot…and sometimes he’ll mention how pretty some girl is.random girls…hell sometimes celebrities or watever and it really tears me I mean i know he loves me.I know am the one he wants to be with…and that he would never purposely hurt me.I trust him,but i still feel envious.I know I am being immature and stupid. Maybe even controlling? so please dont remind me how stupid I am. I just want to be happy with him.I want to get over this. its hurting me and even worse its hurting him. Please share how u would get over this. what do i do

Why Do We Lie to Those We Love

Initially most people avoid looking for deception by a loved one. But as you begin to examine your own behavior more closely it becomes harder to dismiss the degree to which lies, betrayal, secrecy and deceit are ever present in our close relationships. Hopefully, you will take on a greater appreciation for the complexities of your relationships as well as a richer understanding of what it means to be in love. Regardless of the final outcome, taking a close look at deception in your life will change the way you view yourself and others.

Our romantic relationships are seldom what they seem. We all want a relationship that is built on openness, intimacy, and trust, but the truth is, our relationships do not always work that way. More often than not, our intimate relationships involve secrecy and deceit. In fact, if you want to look for deception and betrayal in your own life, the best place to start is close to home. Husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, often lie about their true feelings for each other, the feelings they have for others, and their level of commitment. Indeed, it is safe to say that people save their biggest and most serious lies for those they love.

For better or worse, our romantic relationships are full of paradoxes which we try to overlook, downplay and ignore. For the most part, this strategy works well. Until the day comes when it doesn't, and with little warning or preparation we have to confront face-on the reality that our close relationships are not exactly what they appear to be.

Eventually, almost everyone will catch a spouse or partner in one of their lies. Inevitably, we have a difficult time coping with what we have learned and dealing with the fact that someone close has betrayed our trust. We do not expect our partners to mislead us, nor do we have insight into how and why deception occurs.

On and off relationships

I just got out of an on and off relationship of ten years. I'm 26 years old and very frustrated. Every time we break up, 2 or 3 months pass by and he comes back. Of course, I go back. It is very unhealthy for me because it makes me feel worthless. I know I am not ugly, I can actually say I'm attractive. I say this because there are lot of guys interested but I can't seem to move on. That does not help my self-esteem though. When I am not with him, I tend to get very depressed and you might say suicidal. All I wasn't to do is sleep so I won't have to think about it. I take sleeping pills so I won't have to feel this pain I'm going through. There's been times that I've taken so many pills that I can't feel my body anymore. How can I get over this, I've tried going to a therapist but it did not help me at all

Symptoms of Tigerwoodilizing ( Cheating)

My boyfriend and I recently threw a party. As the party was winding down at 2am, I headed for bed while my boyfriend saw the last few people to the door. I heard whispering, went to investigate and found my boyfriend in the kitchen with his so-called female 'friend', kissing and fondling her and saying how much he missed her. Once I made my presence known, she ran out and he tried to play the whole thing down. The next day, he apologised, and blamed it on the alcohol. But I cannot get the picture of the two of them together out of my head. I'm having trouble trusting him. Should he be trusted

Why do men like big breasts

It's a fact: people in America, and not just men, idolize big breasts. Every year, American women spend millions of dollars on breast implants, cosmetic procedures to improve their breasts, breast enlargement pills, pumps and creams.

Considering the role that big breasts play in our culture and society, the amount time, energy, money and emotion that goes into breast enlargement seems justified.

But why do men like big breasts? You may be surprised to learn that not all men like big breasts (and we're not talking about gay men) - that the male fascination with massive mammaries is relatively recent, and is a localized phenomenon.

Please share you views

The best way to ensure pain free sex

The best way to ensure pain free sex is for both partners to relax and take their time. Having sex does not usually hurt, though first time sex may be a bit uncomfortable for a woman because her hymen (a thin layer of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina) may be stretched or torn. This may cause a little bleeding, but it does not usually last long. Sex is not usually painful for a man.

After the first time, sex should become more comfortable. The vagina is very stretchy and will usually accommodate a penis (even a large one) with ease. However, a woman may experience pain when having sexual intercourse if her vagina does not produce enough natural lubrication. Extra vaginal fluids are usually produced when a woman becomes sexually excited to allow the penis to enter the vagina easily. If a woman is tense or rushing when she has sex, her vagina may not become moist enough to allow the penis to move in and out smoothly. Stress can also cause the muscles in the vagina to involuntarily tense up, making penetration difficult and painful. The best way to ensure pain free sex is for both partners to relax and take their time.

Extra lubrication might also help, and can be bought from many chemists and some supermarkets. When using a condom, it is very important that a water-based lubricant (like KY jelly) is used, as oil-based lubricants like Vaseline can cause the condom to disintegrate.

Making the Choice of having kids

I am in my mid-twenties and have never really wanted kids. I met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with a few years ago and I know that he wants to be a father somewhere down the line. While I know that it's still possible I will change my mind (and that I am more open to suggestion having met him) it concerns me what might happen if I don't.

The Story of A Valentine's Kiss

SINGLE BLACK FEMALE seeks male companionship for Valentine's day, ethnicity unimportant. I'm a very good kisser, and a girl who LOVES to play. I love long walks in the woods, riding in your pickup truck, hunting, camping and fishing trips, cosy winter nights lying by the fire. Candlelight dinners will have me eating out of your hand. Kiss me the right way and watch me respond. I'll be at the front door when you get home from work, wearing only what nature gave me. Kiss me and I'm yours. Call (405) 865-5675 and ask for Daisy.

Over 12,000 'Romeos' phoned and found themselves talking to the Memphis Humane Society about an 7-week old Labrador retriever dog.

Men are so easy....