How Relationships Can Cause Depression

Lifestyle Changes
Relationships can cause depression through lifestyle changes. With any relationship, whether it be parent and child, marriage, dating or friendships, there is always some form of lifestyle change that may arise. Changing for someone else is never a good idea unless it can truly bring about positive change and a change the person is willing to make for themselves first. The lifestyle change may mean giving something up such as a material item, animal or job in order to be with the other person. Even if there is no other alternative for a relationship, it can still bring about feelings of depression with the person who has to give something up. Possibly finding a way to compromise would help to combat feelings of depression.

Disagreements
Something else that can cause depression in any relationship is disagreements. Disagreements can range from what activities to do with each other to what color the walls should be painted. Disagreements are involved in almost any type of relationship, but when they get to be common and reoccurring, it can have an effect on someone's emotional and physical well-being. This is when depression can occur. Overwhelming feelings of sadness and failure can catapult into depression. The depression felt in a disagreement can make one person or the other in the relationship feel less than loved, or lesser of a person if his feelings get hurt. One person in the relationship may not always agree on the decisions or motives of the other person---especially if it affects the relationship as a whole. Disagreements can often lead to arguments, and over time, continual fighting in a relationship can lead to depression.

Loss
When a relationship such as romance, marriage or friendship comes to a close and there is no reconciliation or saving of the union, the loss can be devastating. Loss affects everyone at one point in time. Dealing with loss in a positive manner will help to work through issues and get past the hurt and grief to be able to move on. The first step is realizing with any loss there is change. No one should dwell on or live in the past---this harbors resentment and can make the relationship harder to move past. Loss can also come from the death of a loved one as well. It is easy to allow depression to settle in. Everyone experiences pain and grief over loss. Embracing feelings rather than keeping them isolated inside may help combat feelings of prolonged depression.

Handling forgiving and forgetting

Hi, am into a relation for 1.5yrs now. I love this guy to madness, he sure does love me too.But only after getting into this relation I got to know from that he haS had A number of affairs..in other words he was a flirt. Till few months back i have had bitter experiences like his female friends saying that he is cheating on me, flirting around with them etc...I also found him flirting with girls on chat.. facebook and myspace.. Today he shows me so much love and care that i never dreamt i would get from him. He trusts me a lot, treats me like a baby. he also swears that he has stopped his all bad habits..... Though I haven't had such bitter experiences off late, few of his close friends say that he is serious about me, they are suprised by the huge change in him....I find it difficult to trust him. I check his social networks, phone, ask him where is he etc I feel very insecured if he goes out. In other words am not able to give the space, at times he complains that I dont let himm do wat he likes, give space... I love him alot, he too loves me..But why am so insecured, am not able to trust him, I feel uncomfortable if he makes frds with girls, Am not able to forget the past let alone forgive... Can a play boy really change and love a girl truly?

Please help.I want a happy relation with him. He says he is happy with me. But with all my negative behaviour towards him, I fear he ll leave me someday....

Should I forgive him or not

My boyfriend and I are both virgins and are saving ourselves for marriage. Recently I found out he had already had relations with three different woman that I know of. I'm completely devastated and don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years. Should i forgive him or end it?

Building Trust in a Relationship

Hi, my name is Sasha and I have a question. I am in a relationship and was planning to marry my boyfriend; I love him very much and we make each other very happy, that was until I found out that he is a porn addict and has been one for 16 years. I am so shocked and sad and I don't know if I can trust him ever again? Can I trust him around any women? Can I compare porn to real people? Or if I find his actions unacceptable, should I end the relationship? He has stopped looking at porn and destroyed all of the rest. I feel that it is my fault that he was looking and I can't help but to take it personally. Do you have any advice?

Why women love chocolate more than having sex

Sinful is how women has always described chocolate. But despite so, do you know that 99% of all women love chocolate and that they may actually prefer chocolate more to than to sex?What exactly about chocolate is it so wonderful? Well, in fact it is not just the women who love it but almost everybody would love it too. I believe you enjoy chocolate just as much? It always feels so nice to have it melted in your mouth, delivering its wonderful taste right through your tongue, doesn't it?

Well its wonderful taste aside, chocolate contains phenylethylamine - the same chemical that is released in your brain when you fall in love; leading to that increase in the pounding of your heart, feeling of a sudden gush of excitement. "Love Chemical" is what some would call it. It is also believed by researcher that phenylethylamine in turn causes the brain to release mesolimbic dopamine in the pleasure centers of the brain, another chemical where its presence is at peak during an orgasm.

Nevertheless, the sweetness from chocolate also triggers the release of endorphins. Think about those blissful feeling you had after a wonderful session of lovemaking. That is the effect from the production of endorphins in your body. Perhaps that is why some women actually remarked that they felt a feeling of elation when eating chocolate.

Well, a perfect gift for your love, chocolate will be. Just like buying roses during Valentine's Day, chocolate can never go wrong. In fact, the both could be the best combination ever. Do you know that roses also contain the "Love Chemical", Phenylethylamine? That explains for its distinct scent.

Giving of chocolate, as gifts of love has been long popular in Japan since the late 1950s. A bit different though; during Valentine's Day, the ones doing the giving are the women instead and usually, chocolates were sent as gifts to confess their love for that special guy. Heart-shaped chocolates would usually be given. To nevertheless balance out this unique custom, "White Day" was later invented in Japan. On 14th of March it falls, one month after Valentine's Day exactly. During this day, guys who received the chocolate will be given the chance to reciprocate their valentine gifts with soft, fluffy marshmallows. This would be the happiest day for girls who receive their fluffy gifts. Isn't it so lovely?

Well, giving of chocolate as a gift of love has today, definitely become more and more popular. Along with the greeting card, your message of love will be delivered. Filled with your most genuine love, each chocolate will contain. Melting one's heart as they melt in the mouth, warming up their heart as sweetness run through their tongue.

Why not send some to your loved ones today, brightening up their day with a chocolate so full of love.

Meaning of Roses

"Oh the roses are so lovely– thank you so much, dear. So why did you give me fifteen stalks?" the girl asks. "Huh? Hmm– well just thought the bouquet look nice with fifteen." Ha you just got yourself shoot!

The meaning of roses: the color of roses; the number of roses each has got their meaning. Do you know that 11 roses represent "You are my treasured one; the one I love most in my life" whereas 15 roses represent "I am truly sorry, please forgive me"? Now isn't that a total twist of the meaning for the roses you gave? What had meant to be a message of love has just turned into a message of apology; implying you was guilty of something?

Before you try to impress that someone with that bouquet of roses, make sure you know the meaning behind it, the meaning of roses; what the number of roses represent.

How Do We Know When A Relationship Has A Future

In many instances, we all are “gun shy” after a short-or long- term relationship, because being hurt or feeling bad is not an option.This stinging feeling tends to guide us as we clamor for something new or fresh. It’s as if the bricks and mortar are suddenly out and there is a new fortress built conveniently around your heart.

So when we do meet someone new, how do we know when a bright future is on the horizon? Furthermore, if we think we have it, how do we really know?The heart can be deceptive and initially in a relationship, it can be very lustful swaying the mind to a sort of natural high. This period is just that, a period that both people go through that intentionally attempts to highlight your positives and suppress your negatives towards the perspective mate.

We all want to put our best foot forward in any given situation whether it’s landing a special mate or a good job. However, when your worst foot inevitably takes place of your best one is when the real test commences.In order to properly judge another, one must be able to accept judging themselves!None of us are perfect and everyone has flaws, but to what degree can we accept them not only in others, but ourselves?If we all received a piece of paper with a large T on it, and on either side it listed the pros and cons as the average person would perceive positives and negatives, we would most certainly have a “leg up” in the filtering mode.

Most everyone filters through specific traits and qualities when dating anyone to gauge compatibility and get a better handle on their odds. So when your filter gets clogged up after a certain amount of time with their “personal luggage” as most call it, then it’s time to move on, right?Well, that depends on you obviously....These negative aspects usually are not revealed until some type of commitment has been agreed upon by both people. Then, the facade and veneer of “look, I have so many positives and I’m so fun and cool to be around”, evaporates and real life sets in.

It’s a deal; or it’s deal breaker time.....When all the chips have fallen and the proverbial probationary period of lustful highs comes to an screeching end; a couple is left with what they should have came into the relationship with in the first place.........themselves!An assessment of sorts or a comprehensive evaluation is undertaken in some segregated part of your mind and the conversation is as follows:“Is this man or woman worth my time? Are we going to make each other better for being with each other, or does he or she make me feel something I have never felt before?” If it’s not the exact internal questions, they certainly are not far off.

If our intentions are truly built on a “good hearted foundation” then not hiding the truth about ourselves when meeting others is a simple task. We can love who we are inside and then proceed to market that love so someone else can enjoy it.However, we hide and not reveal what we know are our negatives without working internally on them before proceeding into another relationship, where we can inject them all over again. If we ironed out our problems before delving full fledged into another committed relationship, then we wouldn’t have to “put our best foot forward because we would have both feet already firmly on the ground.”It all starts with you and taking personal accountability for your own heart and what you truly seek in a perspective mate.

False impressions of all positives about yourself put a dishonest spin into a relationship from the get go and point it for a tenuous at best, future.When you get to know yourself inside and out and what you truly want from a relationship is when you will know if a relationship has a future or not.Work on eliminating your negative personality traits before ever pursuing a committed relationship. Then attempt to efficiently read your perspective mate's honest intentions before you invest too much time. If done correctly, you will have increased your odds exponentially for a long term relationship and stacked them confidently in your favor

The love story.

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived, Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge and all the others, including Love. One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So, all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the very last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under water, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat.Love asked,Richness, can I come with you on your boat Richness answered, I am sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere. The Love decided to ask Vanity, who was passing in a beautiful vessel, for help. Love cried out Vanity, help me please!, I cant help you, Vanity said, You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat. Next Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, Sadness please let me go with you.Sadness answered, Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now. Then, Love saw Happiness and cried out, Happiness, please take me with you. But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling him. Love began to cry, then, she heard a voice say, Come love I will take you with me. It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder and when she met Knowledge she asked who it was that had helped her. It was Time, Knowledge answered. But why did Time help me when no one else would?, Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is.

My husband's false statements

I just found out after 8 years of marriage that my husband had a seven-month affair with a co-worker. He would drink with her at a bar and then they would have sex. After a few months, she became pregnant, and my husband did not tell me. He didn't have anything to do with her or the child. I am really confused and don't know what to do. The child is now 4 years old.

Confused in Love

I have two men in my life, and I am confused about which one is right for me. I have been with my boyfriend for five years and things were going well until we started to have problems. He spends more time with his friends than with me and always puts them first. I feel so left out. He has become overprotective, and I can't go anywhere or hang out with my sister or friends. He wants me to just stay at home and only go out when he wants me with him. Our relationship has started to fall apart. I went to a party with him, and he left me to go hang with his boys. This nice guy was checking me out, and we started talking. I didn't see any harm in talking. We had a lot in common, and I told him up front that I had a man in my life. He understood that and respected it. I gave him my number, and the next day he called. We have become very good friends, and I like him more and more. I want to move on with my life with someone who's going to love me, cherish me and want me. So I really like this guy a lot but don't know whether I should get involved with him. I need your help on this.

Advice to men: listen to your girlfriend and don't say anything back. Just listen

I met my husband at a very crazy time of my life. I was 17, my parents were getting a divorce and I had nowhere to live. I met him through friends that I was staying with. He was strong, wild, and respected, your typical bad boy. I invited him to a party one night and by the next night I was living with him. He was 22.I had our first daughter, Hayley, when I was 20. Shortly after I turned 21, we went to Vegas and got hitched in the cheapest chapel we could get. That whole trip was a disaster - the night before the wedding, my fiance spent all our money at a strip club and didn't come back to the hotel until 5 am. The wedding was scheduled for 9 am. You can tell by the pictures that I didn't sleep at all. In fact, I had my first panic attack that night. But I went through with the wedding anyway (after calling the chapel six times throughout the night, canceling and rescheduling). I was pregnant again by the time we checked out of the hotel.

When I was 6 months pregnant with our 2nd daughter, Raven, about a month before our Hayley's 1st birthday, we lost everything in a house fire. After Raven was born, I developed postpartum depression. We were living far away from all my friends and family, I wasn't working, and my husband was gone almost 12 hours a day. My husband and I started fighting, and since he was a drinker, he really didn't care about my depression and anxiety. In fact, he thought I was making it all up for attention. He didn't believe in mental health problems. I started taking medication, and started biting my tongue instead of arguing. I just kept my feelings inside because it was easier than dealing with the fight. Things started to get better when we moved closer to people we knew and I wasn't so lonely.

I finally started working again, and making friends again. When I started hanging out with my friends more, my husband started to get paranoid. He would check my email, MySpace, my phone records, text messages, and go through my car and purse to see what he could find. If I was spending time with my friends, he would call me constantly. "Why aren't you with me?" When I was home, he would want to talk. But everytime I had an opinion that he didn't agree with, he would tell me how stupid it is. If I told him about something funny my friends did, he would comment on how stupid that was. If I introduced him to a new song, he just nodded and pretty much said "whatever." If I had a problem with somebody, he would threaten to beat them up. If I was mad about something, he would get madder. It got to the point that I just stopped talking to him. If I can't say anything without being insulted, why talk?

I met a guy at work. We started off as, honestly, just friends. He was the exact opposite of my husband - insightful, empathetic, accepting. He was someone I could talk to. He introduced me to new music. I could talk to him about my problems at home and he would just listen. If I wanted to cry, he would let me cry. If I mentioned that I needed something, he got it for me. No complaints, no telling me how stupid it is. He was everything my husband wasn't.

One night after being up all night (literally) fighting with my husband, I decided to move out. I wasn't getting any sleep, my kids were watching us scream and throw things constantly. It was a bad situation. I moved in with a friend, but I went home during the day to take care of the kids (I worked nights).
After a few months of being friends, my guy from work and I started talking more. We started text messaging each other, and eventually hanging out after work. The next thing I knew I was going to his house. By this time my husband and I had been separated for a few weeks, and I was seriously considering divorce. That's not what my husband wanted. He finally understood my anxiety, because he was experiencing it first-hand. He was determined to work things out. He started giving me my space, not calling me as much. He started listening. I still thought it was too little, too late. My work-guy just made me... happy. Something I hadn't felt in a long time.

My husband and I went to a concert with a friend of mine. My work-guy went to this same concert with some of his friends. I ran into the work-guy on my way to the bathroom. Seconds later my husband came out and caught us. We ended up getting kicked out of the concert. After a long night of talking, crying, and thinking, I decided that staying with him and moving away was the best thing we could do for our family.
I cheated because I needed someone to fill in the gaps my husband left. I'm still with my husband, and he's trying really hard to fill those gaps himself. Advice to married men: listen to your wife and don't say anything back. Just listen.

The spontaneous expression of love

The moment our eyes met I understood that she loved me passionately. It was the warmth in her eyes that said it all. Much though we were supposed to meet at five, he reached the appointed place at three- thirty. This feeling was so familiar to me. His impatience, restlessness and his joy on seeing me was proof enough that he loved me. As she approached me, her pace grew swifter- that moment I realized she was in love with me.
While conversing with him about this and that, he read out a few poems he had previously written- it did not for even a while make me feel that it could have been composed for some other person. I was conscious that I was the subject of his love poems. The main problem is that people know not how to communicate their emotions.
They keep wondering if they require books or some kind of instruction to express their desire. However, the truth is that it is just spontaneous and frank.
Love is beautiful and pure. It is celestial and intense. It is neither for skeptics nor for people who try to make profit out of everything and look upon life as a business deal. Neither is it for those who are consumed with lust. Love is for all who are honestly looking for a special someone who will complete them. Love is meaningful to those who search for words in silence. Love is for the irrational and the unreasonable. Love is for the one who can put behind anything for love. Love is wonderful!
The moment I behold a happy couple so much in love with each other, I can no longer think about all the spilt ups, divorces and other failed relationships. They look so beautiful together. All that I fret about fades away into nothingness. Instantly I am reminded of how we have corrupted what the Almighty has formed. Love with all its purity and innocence stands before me. I request and urge you to love someone intensely, love him or her with all your heart and soul. Let it be free and frank. You will require no help; no guides can be of any assistance.

Tips to get your boyfriend Back

After breaking up the first thing people tend to do is panic. They feel emotionally numb and unable to think straight about the next step. But, no matter how bad you feel the worst thing you can do is to not take action. If you want to get your boyfriend back you need to get moving or you may find he is in the arms of someone else before you had a chance to dust yourself off and get back on your feet. If you want proven methods to get your partner back.

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  To get back to better times you need to take ownership in the things you did that caused the breakup. If you know where you went wrong you can change your actions for the future.


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  Apologize to your boyfriend. It can be hard, but you will get nowhere without doing it. When you admit you were wrong and take ownership in some of the problems, your husband will know you are serious about making things right again.


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  Allow your boyfriend the space he needs. Apologize and then give him the space he needs to think and re-evaluate. By doing your own thing and appearing happy and strong you husband will also see you as a confident person who is able to go on with life with or without him. He will want to be part of your life to enjoy the positive attitude and strong, confident woman he now sees in you.

Confessions of a Cougar's Man

Cougars don't tend to take advantage of younger men (at least not this one). If anything, they have a touch of innocence mixed with experience that can encourage a man to not only increase his libido but also change his perspective on life as a whole.My definition of a cougar is seen as a confident woman over 40 who looks like she's in her late twenties or early thirties and handles her business Although it may seem a bit odd for a single man (with no kids) to be so passionate about women 20 years his senior, the fact of the matter is I don't go out searching for older women. It just so happens that I meet women who are older than me that have it all together and look my age. To be honest, I don't have any regrets about not dating woman in their twenties. I feel every man should experience an older woman at least once in his lifetime. The benefits are priceless! They'll let a man be a man as oppose to criticizing him for talking to his platonic friend in a social setting, which is absurd

Don't get me wrong. All women are beautiful, unique and creative in their own special way. But as a young ambitious gentleman on the come up, who the hell needs a nagging "girl" who is insecure from dating men? I much rather deal with a full-fledged woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get it by any means necessary. Which in itself is sexy!Whether it's in the bedroom, boardroom or relationships, cougars cut straight to the point, leaving no time to waste. After all, can you blame them? What 47-year-old woman has the time to "play" mind games with her man just to intentionally stir up drama? Or Tweet about the pettiest things that's not cutting her any checks? Instead of "acting" like a mature career-driven woman, how about "becoming" a mature career-driven woman who "knows" what she wants out of life?

And let's not forget about the sex. We want our lady to let loose in the bedroom after a long oppressive day at work. There's nothing like a cougar enticing her man by wearing something extra sexy while spritzing the sheets with her fragrance of choice. You can't beat that. Sometimes a man just needs love and affection.It makes more sense for a brother to have a co-star instead of a supporting cast member in the bed. We, as men, want to experience the ultimate high when it comes to intimacy with a woman. There's absolutely no reason why we should settle for a young amateur. Why have amateur night at the Apollo when we can have the Grammys every night?

The Love Story

WE MET
In April 2008, Jacky was singing at a club in New York and Mike went to see the show with a group some friends. A month later, Mike asked Jacky to join him with some friends, and we soon started dating. It wasn’t long until we realized we were perfect for each other and falling in love.

WE FELL IN LOVE
From the moment we met, we always wanted to be together. We found ways to see each other every day, even for only an hour – we’d meet for a walk in the park, or grab coffee or an ice cream cone. We’ve been together ever since, and we haven’t spent more than a few days apart

WE GOT ENGAGED
At Christmas time, Mike surprised Jacky with a trip to Italy. By the time we were leaving, at least 50 people told Jacky that we would be getting engaged. Mike had already gotten his mother’s engagement ring from his father and hid it in his luggage. We had a wonderful trip. And then at 11pm on our last night in Italy, Mike called Jacky out to the balcony of our hotel room and proposed.

I'm in love but I don't know what to do...

I recently became involved with someone. When I tell you that I never felt this way about someone before I mean it. It ended abruptly a week and a half ago but I still cannot let him go. He haunts my dreams and I can't stop caring about him. For the first time in my life I met someone who really means something to me, who fits me, makes me whole, and who can make me realize that I have a heart...I just came to realization that I'm in love with him, and it makes me hurt because I already have a problem telling people how I feel, but I know I should. How can I tell him that I love him without feeling like a complete psycho?

Keeping our friendship

I really like this guy we have been playing around with each other and spending time together but I don't know if he feels the same I want to ask him but it i don't want to ruin our friendship. Can you help me please!?

Replace money with an act of kindness!

I came across this commercial. The concept is touching. Imagine a world filled with love, where no one needs to pay for anything but just give an act of kindness. A world where to get anything all you need is to kiss or hug every person involved with what you want. Even though the commercial is an alcohol commercial, it depicts a beautiful way of how we should view life. There is a universal law. You reap what you sow. Give love to all and you shall be rewarded abundantly with love as well. Enjoy the commercial.

Loving physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually!!

Love transcends all things and it is not negative. Love is a feeling that when described or defined, the feeling will be lost. Love is a Godly experience. You were created to be completely loved and to be completely lovable for your whole life. Unfortunately, our current civilization has a distorted view on love. We believe there is no such thing as unconditional love or what is called true love. Unconditional love or true love brings joy to all. It will not become attachment for if it is, it is conditional. There is a spiritual analogy that was shared by Don Luiz Miguel. He explained that the heart is like a magical kitchen that whatever type of delicacy or meal you wished for, it can be made by the heart. Everytime you eat from the kitchen of your heart, it gets better. You invite your friends over to share meals. They come over, feast and even leave with a plate to go. You have no need for money or anything because your magical kitchen (heart) is abundant. The way society is now for us, is that we are lost because we are not in touch with ourselves and in turn have no value for our magical kitchen. In turn there is always need between two people instead of love. An example is, a friend knocks on your door and you open up and he or she offers you a box of pizza because you don't use your magical kitchen and just before you take it, he puts a condition on you getting the box of pizza. You reject it the first time. Another knocks the next day with half a box this time, you still endure and reject hoping for a miracle. Finally on the third day, another guy comes with a box of two slices and you give in and accept the box of pizza. Everyday we don't grow and share in love, we feel misery, unhappiness and suffering. Love starts off with self. You love another as you love yourself. Jesus preached to love your neighbor as you love yourself. So grow in love for yourself so you can share it with a stranger, your neighbor, your family, your friends, everyone you meet. Love makes life a heavenly bliss. The experience we are all here for.

Part 1.TEN TIPS TO STAY UP FELLAS

So we’ve been getting more than a few e-mails from women who say that their men aren’t pleasing them in the bedroom due to premature ejaculation. Perhaps the most common detail is the women who face this dilemma don’t have the heart to tell their partners that they’re not satisfied! Which means they are faking their orgasms and… this is no good! As always, communication is key and there are subtle ways to let your man know that he’s not keeping it spicy in the bedroom. For instance, you could simply forward him this link or print this out and put it on the nightstand, pillow or bathroom counter. Whatever works. But fellas, if you can readily admit that you are climaxing too quickly, take a look at these quick and easy tips that should keep your lady pleased and improve your skills with regular practice. If you’re already a stallion in the bedroom, these tips will make you a beast in the sheets!

1.) Use condoms - Of course this robs you of the skin to skin feeling, but it’s safe, one. Two, that thin piece of plastic between you acts as a desensitizer so you’re not getting the unprotected sensation that is often the elixir for quick combustion. If you’re severely afflicted with spontaneous ejaculation, there are some condoms that have a numbing lube that enhance stamina and help maintain the erection.
2.) Control your breathing - Heavy panting and shallow breathing from the chest often leads to premature ejaculation. It would be good to learn how to control your breathing. For starters, take a deep breath in from your nose and into the diaphragm, in other words, you want the stomach to contract when you breathe versus the chest and shoulders. This will improve your circulation. *You may want to make this a habit outside the bedroom so you don’t get lost in the moment and forget to breathe.*
3.) Switch up the stroke - sometimes men get over zealous when in the heat of the moment, get lost in the satisfaction and continue to do what feels good versus what’s going to keep them aroused long enough to please their woman. So switch the stroke from in and out to side to side or up and down, which is great for clitoral stimulation. So try other strokes to take the direct pressure and stimulations off the head of the penis and gives the shaft more play. This will help maintain arousal and give your girl some variety.
4.) Slow down and stop - if you feel yourself nearing the brink of ejaculation, stop! This sounds cliche but most cliches have merit, so either stop or slow down. Remember deep breathing will help you recover but in the meantime, keep things hot and give her some oral attention, tell her you want to see her masturbate or do it for her! Just give yourself a few moments to recollect yourself. Plus women love a tease every now and then!
5.) Let her ride - fellas, loosen the reigns and let her take control. Often times, when women are on top, men can last longer; not to mention, it takes the pressure off you to perform! It also eases the muscle tension of repetitive motions. So let her take the wheel! You both should be worn out in the end, not just you!

Obsession With Size

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, but every so often he switches into an angry mean person and is concerned about nothing else but his penis size. Since my boyfriends before him were larger than he is, he becomes very hurtful towards me, suggesting that I only wanted to be with them for that reason alone. He makes comments that disgust me and make me feel worthless. He yells at me and tells me that it is my fault he feels like this and my fault he will never be able to feel like a man. He says they have power over me because of their size. When things are good between us however, there is nothing wrong with our sex life and I have quite honestly never felt so connected and satified

I can't satisfy his appetite

I have been with Bill for 4 years now! We have gone through intense problems, but managed to salvage our relationship. We have kids together, and for the most part, our relationship is improving. Our biggest problem, however, is our sexual relationship! Bill has a strong sexual appetite! He is constantly asking me to have sex with him. I find myself getting angry and resentful every time he approaches me (which is becoming increasingly less frequent). I feel bad that my sex drive is extremely low. I even feel uncomfortable wearing lingerie. I don't ever really feel like pleasing him. I usually just have sex with him to shut him up for a while. I feel bad that I feel this way, because I really love Bill. I want to share a healthy sex life with him, but the truth is, I don't know how too.
What can I do to stimulate my sexuality? And how should I approach this subject with Bill? He thinks the problem is him, when in fact, the problem is me. The majority of the problems in our relationship revolve around this issue.

Starting Sex on A Honeymoon

If one or both of you is virginal or completely sexually inexperienced then this may help. Start by talking -- if you're inexperienced or scared, admit it. Your spouse may feel the same way!

There is no necessity to do the deed on the honeymoon night. You can wait until the next day. Most newlyweds are deeply exhausted after the wedding day and travelling and just cuddling each other asleep is quite sensible.

Basic beginner sex, if you are both keen, and I hope you both are, is pretty automatic. Kiss, hug, stroke, caress, touch breasts, touch genitals and get decently aroused. SLOWLY SLOWLY. Women take longer, especially if nervous. When aroused, her vagina will relax and secrete a lubricating liquid. The man must not move in for penetration until she feels very wet to the touch and can take two fingers easily.

If she is a virgin, the hymen, or maidenhead, partially obstructs the vagina and he won't be able to penetrate. Sometimes hymens are broken already by other causes or simply not present. She is still a virgin but its all a bit easier.

The hymen must be stretched open. Usually it tears and there is a little blood and pain. I find the best approach is to have the woman squat above the man, who lies on his back. She is facing him and she lowers herself onto his penis. She controls the degree of penetration and will take it slowly, even stop-start a few times. Lots of lubrication is needed. if necessary wet the penis with saliva or gel. When she is ready she will probably do a sudden little thrust and its done. He should participate actively thoughout this by continuing to stroke, caress and knead her body and breasts, but please avoid thrusting upwards.

Hymens that don't break are a problem, if very uncommon. Stretching them with fingers can work. Go slowly. Sometimes they must be snipped by a medical professional.

Remember contraception. Skin on skin is nicest for honeymoons so pills, creams, foams are good, but HIV tests are sensible before non-barrier contraception.

Sex after Pregnancy: A Man's Perspective

What do guys think about sex once baby is born? Get his point of view on when it's safe to revisit sex, what to expect, and how to proceed with Mom in mind.


One day my college-age sister was helping our mom rearrange her study, and to her abject horror, she found a book titled Sex after Fifty on top of a box of other books.

"Go ahead, have a look at it," my mom urged, grinning strangely. My sister declined, but Mom insisted until finally Kelli flipped open the book and peered through one squinted eye at a completely blank page. All the pages were, in fact, blank. To her great relief, it was a gag gift book.

The point of this story will not be lost on any man whose partner has just had a baby. Over the next six weeks or so the story of his sex life will read like the back of a yellow sticky tab. Given his lack of control over her recovery and his own possible feelings of loss as the newborn takes center stage, the lack of sex can be tough for a guy to handle in a way that doesn't drive the couple apart. This article discusses important physical and emotional considerations for this pivotal time in a couple's relationship.

Physical Aspects
Because having babies is so natural and common, many guys have difficulty appreciating just how dramatically a woman's body changes even after the birth and recovery. This lack of awareness may be due in part to the stereotypical male mentality of ignoring those problems we can't fix, and also to a simple lack of physiological knowledge.

Jay from Toronto relates, "I think that during and after the pregnancy I was a good guy in understanding what her body was going through (I went through a couple years in med school before we married), so it was obvious to me that she wouldn't be ready for vaginal sex the week after giving birth. Strangely enough this is not always obvious to guys. My big brother thought that with both his kids, once they were out everything should be back to normal."

Although individual circumstances vary, the typical medical recommendation is for a six-week waiting period before sex after childbirth. Since that can seem like a terribly long time for a guy, here's how to explain some of the physical reasons for the wait in ways that will help him cope.

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How to deal with a bad kisser

So that new guy or girl in your life is just perfect. Kind, caring, fun, exciting he or she has it all. Except... Oh, what a terrible kisser! From the guy who draws blood with every kiss to the girl that makes that weird clicking sound when you lock lips, bad kissers are everywhere. For many of us, kissing is a very important part of a relationship and, unfortunately, the inability to deliver a passionate kiss (or worse, the ability to deliver a disgusting kiss) can be a deal breaker, no matter how great the person is otherwise. Luckily, most bad kissers can become good kissers if you have a little patience, tact, and courage. The question of the day is how can you help your sweetheart to become a good kisser.

One night stand

I happened to have a one night stand (my first one) and this guy has continued to message me and I've been messaging him back. I am feeling like I really could like him and I may have ruined any chances of something deeper because I slept with him the way I did. Is there any way this could work? Is this salvageable

Was it lust or Love

It's been two years since we've been together, and we were together for about 8 yrs. There hasn't been a day that's gone by that I haven't thought of him. In the morning when I wake up, and at night when I go to bed. I've moved on with my life, but am still single and find it hard to have a meaningful relationship with anyone. I think I am still in love with him, I don't think I know I am. How can I get past this love for him, and move on in my heart. I don't think he's still cares about me because I never hear from him. I miss him, his passion, his voice, his hands, his affection so much...I miss his love... The ball is in his court, and it's not moving.,, so to speak... any advice? How do I get my heart to move on?? Would love to hear from anyone who's been thru the same thing. Thanks for ur comments

Louisiana Judge wouldnt marry interracial couples

"I'm not a racist. I just don't believe in mixing the races that way."

Keith Bardwell, a Louisiana Justice of the Peace who sounds like a Rip Van Winkle character who slept through the '60s,'70s, '80s . . . (you get the picture). He says he's concerned for the children interracial couples would have, and that in Tangipahoa Parish where he lives, interracial marriages don't last long. Last I heard, the chances of any marriage in the US lasting is about 50/50 and that people of opposite sexes, anyway, are free to marry who they choose.

Orgasms

I have been married for three and the half years now and had orgasm only two times in all our sexual encounters. Please help me on what to do.

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I am so confused Please help me

I am in search of someone special in my life!!! I broked up last year now I am too bored of this single life and desperately in search of someone, who cares for me. I am finding true love but the problem is that whenever I meet any girl who is good looking and smart I feel that i am in love with her.It is happening to every girl i know and now i am confused every girl i meet i think that girl is the special one! Please help me...How can I know who is the right one

Does he really love me

I have a boyfriend,and we've been going out for 5 months,and we have already done sex in our relationship for a couple of times,he introduced me to his parents,and his parents are really nice and the good thing about it is that i'm the first girl he introduced to his parents,because before when he had girls over at their house,they would just hang outside of their house and when his parents would ask him who that was,he would just say nobody,just a friend.I'm happy because of that,he's not the first guy i've had sex with,same with him but we both admitted it.he can really be sweet sometimes when we're alone together. when we're alone together,he's a different person in a good way. but when we're with other people,he acts different,he sometimes acts like a jerk. He doesnt like holding hands, hugging me or kissing, but i love him,and i know that somehow,he loves me too.I don't know if he really loves me for who i am or is he just using me for pleasure.
i need help!

Relationship advice: tips for meeting a boyfriends mother

Many of us are very nervous to meet our boyfriend's mother but don't get nervous there are so many ways to win her affection. Bring some small gift ( like flowers, ear rings, perfume if she like) for her because the first meeting, is always remarkable. Look in the her eyes when you are talking.You never find all good qualities are involve in one single person. Nature varies from person to person. So may be some points of yours might not match a particular frame.Try to understand what she is expecting from you. Because she is the only person which will give you all your future responsibilities Select appropriate timing just as evening. Select special day & venue for meeting. Don' make a plan to meet in between her office time or on weekdays. Before meeting fix a time as per your mother in laws convenience. Don't choose place like hotel is full with rush. Select a venue like pleasant & calm place where you can speak easily.If you are inviting for dinner to your house then please inform your parents or make sure your house is clean . Don't invite other relatives or friends groups in particular on that occasion because may be it will become obstacle to your discussion. Try to find what type of food she likes. If you don't' like the same food then please don't make comment on it. Just say 'No, thanks'' .When your meeting session is over tell her it was a pleasure meeting her and that you look forward to getting to know her better. Please wear simple dress cloths. Don't wear miniskirts & slutty dress.. Wear pleasant color like in pastel shades, pink, light yellow etc. Don't makeup too much gaudy. Please also compliment her on her clothes , look etc .After your introduction part is finish try to take situation into your hand ask about her impression. for example, ask about her expectation. & talk about family members nature etc. In this way she feel that you are really equally interested in her family.Don't make any comment on their family matters. Remember one thing now you are only simple girl according to her & may be become future daughter in law after your marriage only. After your meeting it's very necessary for you to talk to your boyfriend about his mother.

How To Manage Your Anger Toward a Loved One

Unrestrained anger destroys your relationships. Unrestrained anger is dangerous to your health. Anger can lead to unhelpful consequences. Some people easily get angry because they cannot give a chance to think that the are right or wrong. Why the people get angry because of negative thoughts or may because they are unhappy with their past or present relationships.

Change the Subject: Whenever your partner gets angry on you try to change the subject of the conversation. Try to move on to another topic of discussion meaning you are trying to divert his or her concentration from a particular topic.
Learn to relax: Try to relax whenever your partner gets angry on you because if you become part of the anger then it is impossible to handle your angry partner.
Exercise: In yoga there are a few exercise to control anger. Teach some important exercises to your partner which will help to control anger.
Listen to soothing music: If you really know your partners likes or dislikes and if he/she like to listen a music then play some music.
Forgive and Forget: If your partner is continuously hurt by family, relationship or someone then it is your job to give understanding and give a right advice.
Develop Sympathy: Try to avoid violence between you and your partner. Try to develop sympathy between you and your partner. Understand each other and resolve any differences
Show you are listening: If your partner is ready to discuss him/her personal matter then try to listen him/her and find out solution on it.
Share Your Feelings and Fears: Your partner is too angry then share your feeling and tell him/her.

How to rebuild trust in a broken relationship

Good relationship was created by people but after sometime they loss their trust, unfaithfulness, dishonesty and infidelity in relationship can destroy a lasting friendship. But it is very difficult to rebuild trust in a broken relationship. When trust is lost it takes a long time and it is difficult to rebuild a long term relationship
Forgive and forget: It is very difficult to forget all things. But your partner is trying to make a fresh start then it is great chance to rebuild your trust.

Honest: If you are trying to solve your personal matter then be honest with your partner because honesty creates an intimate atmosphere between you and your partner. But it is good time be honest with yourself and then be honest with your partner.

Spend time with each other: If you are trying to rebuild your relationship with your partner then try to spend maximum time with your partner.
Value each other's secrets: If your partner is sharing some important secrets with you then listen to him/her and try to show respect to his/her secrets, please avoid launching on your partner.
Have fun with each other: It is great time to have fun with your partner. Try to forget all the things which hurt that created a distance between you and your partner.

Dealing with a jealous Partner

Jealousy is relating to insecurity and fear, it is also about control. If your partner has a fit each time you want to go out with your co-workers after work or spend time with a friend then this could lead to some extremely serious problems, including spousal mistreatment and altercations between your partner and your friends. If alcohol is involved, it could be a very dangerous mixture for everyone. Insecurity is part of jealousy. If your partner is unsafe, it is because of low self esteem on their part unless it is about events on your part. If you are staying out late with a friend and do not call or engage them in any way in your friendship, you may need to create some changes in your performance. But if your partner is noisy because you have friends, you both need to agree on the boundaries of your relationship, and stick to them. Jealousy and possessiveness becomes intolerable when it gets out of hand and starts to eat the relationship. Frequently, a wife feels desired if her husband displays loving possessiveness or a boyfriend feels more loved and important if his girlfriend gets a little irritated when he checks out other women. So when does it get to be a problem? Share your thoughts and experiences.

I keep dreaming about my Husbands mistress

About two years ago my husband cheated on me and got the “other woman” pregnant. A lot has gone on since then and I remained with my husband. Now, I’ve never liked this chick from the beginning. So. After all has been said and done and we are all (sorta) comfortably pretending the others don’t exist, keep having dreams about her. First that she lived in my neighborhood. Then that she would come to my house with her daughter. (She is NOT welcome anywhere near me.) Then that my family would invite her to family functions (never in a million years) then get mad at ME for getting upset with it. I dream about this once or twice a week and I wake up incredibly angry every time. I get that I have unresolved issues with this, but what’s up? Why does it keep invading my head while I’m sleeping?

what do women's wet dreams mean

I have orgasms in my sleep, what can be called “wet dreams.” When I dream something erotic (even if it’s just my husband and I having sex), not only do I become aroused, but I have actual orgasms. I would say I have several wet dreams a month. Now, I’m not complaining — it’s kind of awesome, to be honest! — but I want to know how common this is amongst women? Because I’ve never heard of women having wet dreams. Men, yes…women, no. Although, my own husband hasn’t ever had a wet dream. I find that strange, because I always thought that men are the only ones to have them. So what’s the deal?

Help Interprete this dream

I have a little jealousy problem when it comes to my fiance because I know that I’m not perfect in bed. Also, I continue to have a dream that my fiance is cheating on me with my friend and we get into a fight and he defends her and tells me to leave him alone and never talk to him ever again

Should I move on

I’m 35 and have been with my boyfriend a little over two years. He recently told me he is not and will not be ready for a family and marriage for at least two more years because he is having financial issues. I am ready now, or at least within the next year, and I want a future with him. I am scared to stay with him another two years just for him to again tell me he is not ready or maybe by then I’ll be too old to have kids. He has a lot of financial baggage and debt, I don’t. Should I move on or stick it out

From Break Up to Make Up

Three years ago Wendy filed for divorce. After turning his back on the Lord for so many years, Tom got back into church and the two reconciled.

Marriage in Ruins

What Makes for a Happy Marriage or relationship

People have different ideas about what makes a happy marriage or relationship. But, for many, the question is one they have not asked themselves. Or at least if they have, they don’t have a definitive answer in mind. So I think it’s worthwhile to look at how other people define a happy marriage or relationships. Please share your thoughts

Are you ready for a successful relationship

After being happily married for 32 years, Dr. Phil shares some of his thoughts about what makes a marriage work.

The quality of a relationship is a function of the extent to which it is built on a solid underlying friendship and meets the needs of the two people involved.

You get what you give. When you give better, you get better.

If you put your relationship in a win/lose situation, it will be a lose/lose situation.

Forget whether you're right or wrong. The question is: Is what you're doing working or not working?

There is no right or wrong way to fix a relationship. Find your own way that works. But recognize when it's not working and be honest when it needs fixing.

Falling in love is not the same thing as being in love. Embrace the change and know that it takes work.

You don't fix things by fixing your partner.

Intimacy is so important because it is when we let someone else enter our private world.

You don't necessarily solve problems. You learn how to manage them.

Communicate. Make sure your sentences have verbs. Remember that only 7 percent of communication is verbal. Actions and non-verbal communication speak much louder.

You teach people how to treat you. You can renegotiate the rules

THE FOUR CORNERSTONES OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE

There are very good reasons why marriage failure is such a widespread epidemic. The four cornerstones of a happy marriage represent life’s toughest tests; and they are not lessons most people are skilled at learning right off the bat in relationships. These four cornerstones that challenge all people trying to thrive in relationships are:

· Expanding unconditional love; for yourself and for your spouse and for God.

· Finding the right perspective. The woman should be a positive influence to the man's authority without pride.

· Practicing good communication. No one said it is easy but it grows with time and all it takes is trying and being considerate.

· Being God-centered. God created LOVE, only Gods can fix any broken pieces. Any attempt to change it around only last for a little while but when the storm comes, giving up is the best uption when GOD is not involved.

This article was written by Bill Cottringer

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

The glue that holds a marriage together is unconditional love, but it is rare glue with secret ingredients that run contrary to our human nature. The secret ingredients are acceptance, understanding and tolerance of human differences, especially when they go against our sense of fundamental fairness, core values, important expectations, strong preferences, and basic ways of thinking, acting and being.

We first learn that unconditional love is real and not an imaginary myth, during the presence of children, soul mates and pets. Love is truly unconditional in these interactions; they are free and easy. This phase of unconditional love probably happens just to coax us into wanting more of it in our relationships, where there is no shortage of obstacles working against it.

Expanding your capacity for unconditional love is a lifelong quest that has to be done one experience at a time. In an odd sense, the heart’s capacity grows through hurt and bleeding. Knowing these realities makes it a little easier, but unfortunately there are no shortcuts here. This is without a doubt a marriage’s toughest test that the majority of people fail. Probably the best way to make headway is to realize the amazing unconditional love God has given to us with our life and free will. There are very few fatal conditions, mostly just temporary detours.

Sharing your most intimate desires with the one you love.

Most people are afraid to speak their minds to their partners about what they want, mostly for fear of looking like a pervert, for fear of being demanding or for fear of what ever the reason may be.
I have seen many relationships thrive because the woman tells the man what she wants, how she wants it and vice versa with affection of course. In most cases both partners love to feel like they can give something and it counts for much when you ask during intimacy and recieve.
"Honey I like it when you touch me here, or kiss me there or hold me like this or like that..." what ever term you like to use or what ever love language you like to speak.

Some people like kinky love. I think it is ok as long as it is not predominant. It is one of those things that gets tacky after so many times and can create a negative space. It is good to be open but rational.
Trying new things is fun and opens the mind not just to relationship building but also in other areas of your life.
Give it a shot and tell us at TLL what you think or if you have been doing so, kindly share some ideas. It is a great way to share intimacy with your spouse. I do not mean only sexually, even though that will be a great tool to rekindle the fire in a dying relationship.

My disclaimer will be that God is the ultimate relationship builder. He created all things even the love we so want but want to keep Him out of it. God is Love. Without Him, your relationship is like a paper in the wind wishing for good winds to toss you to the right direction.

Question of the day

Love is possible after friendship, but friendship is not possible after love. Please I need your comments

Healing a Broken Heart

It sounds trite, but there's always something you can learn from every experience. Often it's the seed of a current or past "failure" that fuels you to the very success that you've always dreamed of. Past relationships give you a clearer picture of what you want and what you don't want in a relationship if you take the time to examine them.

It's the power of contrast that living in an unfulfilling relationship may give you. A woman we'll call Connie brought her intimate relationship to an end after several years of turmoil with her partner. After the break-up, she realized what this relationship had taught her and that it wasn't a "failure."

This relationship had helped her to define the type of partner she would really resonate with--someone who was on a similar spiritual path, someone she could have a deep connection with, and someone who loved to be with groups of people.

This partner who she left wanted to always be alone with her and she liked to be with people. They also did not have the same spiritual interests which created distance between them.

She learned to bless the relationship and let it go to make room for the type of partner she wanted to be with and to free her previous partner to find a more appropriate mate.

She learned that her relationship wasn't a "failure" because of what it taught her about herself and her life- what she wanted and what she didn't want in a relationship. People come and go in our lives. Some people are with us for a brief instant, for five days or for fifty or more years. The impact of these relationships on our lives can all be great.

Sometimes we don't understand why we are involved with someone in a particular relationship or why someone has such a hold on us. We don't understand why someone comes into our life for a brief time and then leaves. What we've learned is that if a relationship isn't working out, it is not a bad thing or a failure that our society likes to label it. It just may be that you have learned what it is that you were supposed to learn by being in a relationship with that other person and it's time to move on to other "lessons."

We're not suggesting that you take your relationships lightly and throw them away at the first sign of conflict--Quite the contrary. What we are saying is that the purpose of all relationships is to help us to grow--personally and spiritually. Even the relationships that are the most troubling to us can be gifts in learning more about ourselves. So instead of looking at a relationship that didn't work out the way you had hoped as a failure, we suggest you look at it as a growth experience and move forward consciously by learning from it.

How to make a long distance relationship work - Keeping the spark alive

Making a relationship work requires sincerity, commitment and conviction, in equal measures, by both the partners, to achieve the desired success in a relationship. However in long distance relationships, an overdose of commitment and love is all it takes to keep it steady and strong. Keeping the spark alive can become an uphill task if your partner is miles away from you. For any relationship to work, communication is a necessary and most vital tool.In today's age, unlike the bygone days where communication was limited to writing letters, we have a whole array of communication tools to choose from, which are not only quick but cost-effective too.

Do you believe long distance relationship is feasible?