The love story.

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived, Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge and all the others, including Love. One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So, all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island paradise until the very last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under water, Love decided it was time to leave. She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Richness was passing by in a grand boat.Love asked,Richness, can I come with you on your boat Richness answered, I am sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you anywhere. The Love decided to ask Vanity, who was passing in a beautiful vessel, for help. Love cried out Vanity, help me please!, I cant help you, Vanity said, You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat. Next Love saw Sadness passing by. Love said, Sadness please let me go with you.Sadness answered, Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now. Then, Love saw Happiness and cried out, Happiness, please take me with you. But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling him. Love began to cry, then, she heard a voice say, Come love I will take you with me. It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder and when she met Knowledge she asked who it was that had helped her. It was Time, Knowledge answered. But why did Time help me when no one else would?, Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is.

My husband's false statements

I just found out after 8 years of marriage that my husband had a seven-month affair with a co-worker. He would drink with her at a bar and then they would have sex. After a few months, she became pregnant, and my husband did not tell me. He didn't have anything to do with her or the child. I am really confused and don't know what to do. The child is now 4 years old.

Confused in Love

I have two men in my life, and I am confused about which one is right for me. I have been with my boyfriend for five years and things were going well until we started to have problems. He spends more time with his friends than with me and always puts them first. I feel so left out. He has become overprotective, and I can't go anywhere or hang out with my sister or friends. He wants me to just stay at home and only go out when he wants me with him. Our relationship has started to fall apart. I went to a party with him, and he left me to go hang with his boys. This nice guy was checking me out, and we started talking. I didn't see any harm in talking. We had a lot in common, and I told him up front that I had a man in my life. He understood that and respected it. I gave him my number, and the next day he called. We have become very good friends, and I like him more and more. I want to move on with my life with someone who's going to love me, cherish me and want me. So I really like this guy a lot but don't know whether I should get involved with him. I need your help on this.

Advice to men: listen to your girlfriend and don't say anything back. Just listen

I met my husband at a very crazy time of my life. I was 17, my parents were getting a divorce and I had nowhere to live. I met him through friends that I was staying with. He was strong, wild, and respected, your typical bad boy. I invited him to a party one night and by the next night I was living with him. He was 22.I had our first daughter, Hayley, when I was 20. Shortly after I turned 21, we went to Vegas and got hitched in the cheapest chapel we could get. That whole trip was a disaster - the night before the wedding, my fiance spent all our money at a strip club and didn't come back to the hotel until 5 am. The wedding was scheduled for 9 am. You can tell by the pictures that I didn't sleep at all. In fact, I had my first panic attack that night. But I went through with the wedding anyway (after calling the chapel six times throughout the night, canceling and rescheduling). I was pregnant again by the time we checked out of the hotel.

When I was 6 months pregnant with our 2nd daughter, Raven, about a month before our Hayley's 1st birthday, we lost everything in a house fire. After Raven was born, I developed postpartum depression. We were living far away from all my friends and family, I wasn't working, and my husband was gone almost 12 hours a day. My husband and I started fighting, and since he was a drinker, he really didn't care about my depression and anxiety. In fact, he thought I was making it all up for attention. He didn't believe in mental health problems. I started taking medication, and started biting my tongue instead of arguing. I just kept my feelings inside because it was easier than dealing with the fight. Things started to get better when we moved closer to people we knew and I wasn't so lonely.

I finally started working again, and making friends again. When I started hanging out with my friends more, my husband started to get paranoid. He would check my email, MySpace, my phone records, text messages, and go through my car and purse to see what he could find. If I was spending time with my friends, he would call me constantly. "Why aren't you with me?" When I was home, he would want to talk. But everytime I had an opinion that he didn't agree with, he would tell me how stupid it is. If I told him about something funny my friends did, he would comment on how stupid that was. If I introduced him to a new song, he just nodded and pretty much said "whatever." If I had a problem with somebody, he would threaten to beat them up. If I was mad about something, he would get madder. It got to the point that I just stopped talking to him. If I can't say anything without being insulted, why talk?

I met a guy at work. We started off as, honestly, just friends. He was the exact opposite of my husband - insightful, empathetic, accepting. He was someone I could talk to. He introduced me to new music. I could talk to him about my problems at home and he would just listen. If I wanted to cry, he would let me cry. If I mentioned that I needed something, he got it for me. No complaints, no telling me how stupid it is. He was everything my husband wasn't.

One night after being up all night (literally) fighting with my husband, I decided to move out. I wasn't getting any sleep, my kids were watching us scream and throw things constantly. It was a bad situation. I moved in with a friend, but I went home during the day to take care of the kids (I worked nights).
After a few months of being friends, my guy from work and I started talking more. We started text messaging each other, and eventually hanging out after work. The next thing I knew I was going to his house. By this time my husband and I had been separated for a few weeks, and I was seriously considering divorce. That's not what my husband wanted. He finally understood my anxiety, because he was experiencing it first-hand. He was determined to work things out. He started giving me my space, not calling me as much. He started listening. I still thought it was too little, too late. My work-guy just made me... happy. Something I hadn't felt in a long time.

My husband and I went to a concert with a friend of mine. My work-guy went to this same concert with some of his friends. I ran into the work-guy on my way to the bathroom. Seconds later my husband came out and caught us. We ended up getting kicked out of the concert. After a long night of talking, crying, and thinking, I decided that staying with him and moving away was the best thing we could do for our family.
I cheated because I needed someone to fill in the gaps my husband left. I'm still with my husband, and he's trying really hard to fill those gaps himself. Advice to married men: listen to your wife and don't say anything back. Just listen.

The spontaneous expression of love

The moment our eyes met I understood that she loved me passionately. It was the warmth in her eyes that said it all. Much though we were supposed to meet at five, he reached the appointed place at three- thirty. This feeling was so familiar to me. His impatience, restlessness and his joy on seeing me was proof enough that he loved me. As she approached me, her pace grew swifter- that moment I realized she was in love with me.
While conversing with him about this and that, he read out a few poems he had previously written- it did not for even a while make me feel that it could have been composed for some other person. I was conscious that I was the subject of his love poems. The main problem is that people know not how to communicate their emotions.
They keep wondering if they require books or some kind of instruction to express their desire. However, the truth is that it is just spontaneous and frank.
Love is beautiful and pure. It is celestial and intense. It is neither for skeptics nor for people who try to make profit out of everything and look upon life as a business deal. Neither is it for those who are consumed with lust. Love is for all who are honestly looking for a special someone who will complete them. Love is meaningful to those who search for words in silence. Love is for the irrational and the unreasonable. Love is for the one who can put behind anything for love. Love is wonderful!
The moment I behold a happy couple so much in love with each other, I can no longer think about all the spilt ups, divorces and other failed relationships. They look so beautiful together. All that I fret about fades away into nothingness. Instantly I am reminded of how we have corrupted what the Almighty has formed. Love with all its purity and innocence stands before me. I request and urge you to love someone intensely, love him or her with all your heart and soul. Let it be free and frank. You will require no help; no guides can be of any assistance.

Tips to get your boyfriend Back

After breaking up the first thing people tend to do is panic. They feel emotionally numb and unable to think straight about the next step. But, no matter how bad you feel the worst thing you can do is to not take action. If you want to get your boyfriend back you need to get moving or you may find he is in the arms of someone else before you had a chance to dust yourself off and get back on your feet. If you want proven methods to get your partner back.

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  To get back to better times you need to take ownership in the things you did that caused the breakup. If you know where you went wrong you can change your actions for the future.


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  Apologize to your boyfriend. It can be hard, but you will get nowhere without doing it. When you admit you were wrong and take ownership in some of the problems, your husband will know you are serious about making things right again.


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  Allow your boyfriend the space he needs. Apologize and then give him the space he needs to think and re-evaluate. By doing your own thing and appearing happy and strong you husband will also see you as a confident person who is able to go on with life with or without him. He will want to be part of your life to enjoy the positive attitude and strong, confident woman he now sees in you.

Confessions of a Cougar's Man

Cougars don't tend to take advantage of younger men (at least not this one). If anything, they have a touch of innocence mixed with experience that can encourage a man to not only increase his libido but also change his perspective on life as a whole.My definition of a cougar is seen as a confident woman over 40 who looks like she's in her late twenties or early thirties and handles her business Although it may seem a bit odd for a single man (with no kids) to be so passionate about women 20 years his senior, the fact of the matter is I don't go out searching for older women. It just so happens that I meet women who are older than me that have it all together and look my age. To be honest, I don't have any regrets about not dating woman in their twenties. I feel every man should experience an older woman at least once in his lifetime. The benefits are priceless! They'll let a man be a man as oppose to criticizing him for talking to his platonic friend in a social setting, which is absurd

Don't get me wrong. All women are beautiful, unique and creative in their own special way. But as a young ambitious gentleman on the come up, who the hell needs a nagging "girl" who is insecure from dating men? I much rather deal with a full-fledged woman who knows what she wants and knows how to get it by any means necessary. Which in itself is sexy!Whether it's in the bedroom, boardroom or relationships, cougars cut straight to the point, leaving no time to waste. After all, can you blame them? What 47-year-old woman has the time to "play" mind games with her man just to intentionally stir up drama? Or Tweet about the pettiest things that's not cutting her any checks? Instead of "acting" like a mature career-driven woman, how about "becoming" a mature career-driven woman who "knows" what she wants out of life?

And let's not forget about the sex. We want our lady to let loose in the bedroom after a long oppressive day at work. There's nothing like a cougar enticing her man by wearing something extra sexy while spritzing the sheets with her fragrance of choice. You can't beat that. Sometimes a man just needs love and affection.It makes more sense for a brother to have a co-star instead of a supporting cast member in the bed. We, as men, want to experience the ultimate high when it comes to intimacy with a woman. There's absolutely no reason why we should settle for a young amateur. Why have amateur night at the Apollo when we can have the Grammys every night?

The Love Story

WE MET
In April 2008, Jacky was singing at a club in New York and Mike went to see the show with a group some friends. A month later, Mike asked Jacky to join him with some friends, and we soon started dating. It wasn’t long until we realized we were perfect for each other and falling in love.

WE FELL IN LOVE
From the moment we met, we always wanted to be together. We found ways to see each other every day, even for only an hour – we’d meet for a walk in the park, or grab coffee or an ice cream cone. We’ve been together ever since, and we haven’t spent more than a few days apart

WE GOT ENGAGED
At Christmas time, Mike surprised Jacky with a trip to Italy. By the time we were leaving, at least 50 people told Jacky that we would be getting engaged. Mike had already gotten his mother’s engagement ring from his father and hid it in his luggage. We had a wonderful trip. And then at 11pm on our last night in Italy, Mike called Jacky out to the balcony of our hotel room and proposed.

I'm in love but I don't know what to do...

I recently became involved with someone. When I tell you that I never felt this way about someone before I mean it. It ended abruptly a week and a half ago but I still cannot let him go. He haunts my dreams and I can't stop caring about him. For the first time in my life I met someone who really means something to me, who fits me, makes me whole, and who can make me realize that I have a heart...I just came to realization that I'm in love with him, and it makes me hurt because I already have a problem telling people how I feel, but I know I should. How can I tell him that I love him without feeling like a complete psycho?

Keeping our friendship

I really like this guy we have been playing around with each other and spending time together but I don't know if he feels the same I want to ask him but it i don't want to ruin our friendship. Can you help me please!?

Replace money with an act of kindness!

I came across this commercial. The concept is touching. Imagine a world filled with love, where no one needs to pay for anything but just give an act of kindness. A world where to get anything all you need is to kiss or hug every person involved with what you want. Even though the commercial is an alcohol commercial, it depicts a beautiful way of how we should view life. There is a universal law. You reap what you sow. Give love to all and you shall be rewarded abundantly with love as well. Enjoy the commercial.

Loving physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually!!

Love transcends all things and it is not negative. Love is a feeling that when described or defined, the feeling will be lost. Love is a Godly experience. You were created to be completely loved and to be completely lovable for your whole life. Unfortunately, our current civilization has a distorted view on love. We believe there is no such thing as unconditional love or what is called true love. Unconditional love or true love brings joy to all. It will not become attachment for if it is, it is conditional. There is a spiritual analogy that was shared by Don Luiz Miguel. He explained that the heart is like a magical kitchen that whatever type of delicacy or meal you wished for, it can be made by the heart. Everytime you eat from the kitchen of your heart, it gets better. You invite your friends over to share meals. They come over, feast and even leave with a plate to go. You have no need for money or anything because your magical kitchen (heart) is abundant. The way society is now for us, is that we are lost because we are not in touch with ourselves and in turn have no value for our magical kitchen. In turn there is always need between two people instead of love. An example is, a friend knocks on your door and you open up and he or she offers you a box of pizza because you don't use your magical kitchen and just before you take it, he puts a condition on you getting the box of pizza. You reject it the first time. Another knocks the next day with half a box this time, you still endure and reject hoping for a miracle. Finally on the third day, another guy comes with a box of two slices and you give in and accept the box of pizza. Everyday we don't grow and share in love, we feel misery, unhappiness and suffering. Love starts off with self. You love another as you love yourself. Jesus preached to love your neighbor as you love yourself. So grow in love for yourself so you can share it with a stranger, your neighbor, your family, your friends, everyone you meet. Love makes life a heavenly bliss. The experience we are all here for.

Part 1.TEN TIPS TO STAY UP FELLAS

So we’ve been getting more than a few e-mails from women who say that their men aren’t pleasing them in the bedroom due to premature ejaculation. Perhaps the most common detail is the women who face this dilemma don’t have the heart to tell their partners that they’re not satisfied! Which means they are faking their orgasms and… this is no good! As always, communication is key and there are subtle ways to let your man know that he’s not keeping it spicy in the bedroom. For instance, you could simply forward him this link or print this out and put it on the nightstand, pillow or bathroom counter. Whatever works. But fellas, if you can readily admit that you are climaxing too quickly, take a look at these quick and easy tips that should keep your lady pleased and improve your skills with regular practice. If you’re already a stallion in the bedroom, these tips will make you a beast in the sheets!

1.) Use condoms - Of course this robs you of the skin to skin feeling, but it’s safe, one. Two, that thin piece of plastic between you acts as a desensitizer so you’re not getting the unprotected sensation that is often the elixir for quick combustion. If you’re severely afflicted with spontaneous ejaculation, there are some condoms that have a numbing lube that enhance stamina and help maintain the erection.
2.) Control your breathing - Heavy panting and shallow breathing from the chest often leads to premature ejaculation. It would be good to learn how to control your breathing. For starters, take a deep breath in from your nose and into the diaphragm, in other words, you want the stomach to contract when you breathe versus the chest and shoulders. This will improve your circulation. *You may want to make this a habit outside the bedroom so you don’t get lost in the moment and forget to breathe.*
3.) Switch up the stroke - sometimes men get over zealous when in the heat of the moment, get lost in the satisfaction and continue to do what feels good versus what’s going to keep them aroused long enough to please their woman. So switch the stroke from in and out to side to side or up and down, which is great for clitoral stimulation. So try other strokes to take the direct pressure and stimulations off the head of the penis and gives the shaft more play. This will help maintain arousal and give your girl some variety.
4.) Slow down and stop - if you feel yourself nearing the brink of ejaculation, stop! This sounds cliche but most cliches have merit, so either stop or slow down. Remember deep breathing will help you recover but in the meantime, keep things hot and give her some oral attention, tell her you want to see her masturbate or do it for her! Just give yourself a few moments to recollect yourself. Plus women love a tease every now and then!
5.) Let her ride - fellas, loosen the reigns and let her take control. Often times, when women are on top, men can last longer; not to mention, it takes the pressure off you to perform! It also eases the muscle tension of repetitive motions. So let her take the wheel! You both should be worn out in the end, not just you!

Obsession With Size

My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, but every so often he switches into an angry mean person and is concerned about nothing else but his penis size. Since my boyfriends before him were larger than he is, he becomes very hurtful towards me, suggesting that I only wanted to be with them for that reason alone. He makes comments that disgust me and make me feel worthless. He yells at me and tells me that it is my fault he feels like this and my fault he will never be able to feel like a man. He says they have power over me because of their size. When things are good between us however, there is nothing wrong with our sex life and I have quite honestly never felt so connected and satified

I can't satisfy his appetite

I have been with Bill for 4 years now! We have gone through intense problems, but managed to salvage our relationship. We have kids together, and for the most part, our relationship is improving. Our biggest problem, however, is our sexual relationship! Bill has a strong sexual appetite! He is constantly asking me to have sex with him. I find myself getting angry and resentful every time he approaches me (which is becoming increasingly less frequent). I feel bad that my sex drive is extremely low. I even feel uncomfortable wearing lingerie. I don't ever really feel like pleasing him. I usually just have sex with him to shut him up for a while. I feel bad that I feel this way, because I really love Bill. I want to share a healthy sex life with him, but the truth is, I don't know how too.
What can I do to stimulate my sexuality? And how should I approach this subject with Bill? He thinks the problem is him, when in fact, the problem is me. The majority of the problems in our relationship revolve around this issue.

Starting Sex on A Honeymoon

If one or both of you is virginal or completely sexually inexperienced then this may help. Start by talking -- if you're inexperienced or scared, admit it. Your spouse may feel the same way!

There is no necessity to do the deed on the honeymoon night. You can wait until the next day. Most newlyweds are deeply exhausted after the wedding day and travelling and just cuddling each other asleep is quite sensible.

Basic beginner sex, if you are both keen, and I hope you both are, is pretty automatic. Kiss, hug, stroke, caress, touch breasts, touch genitals and get decently aroused. SLOWLY SLOWLY. Women take longer, especially if nervous. When aroused, her vagina will relax and secrete a lubricating liquid. The man must not move in for penetration until she feels very wet to the touch and can take two fingers easily.

If she is a virgin, the hymen, or maidenhead, partially obstructs the vagina and he won't be able to penetrate. Sometimes hymens are broken already by other causes or simply not present. She is still a virgin but its all a bit easier.

The hymen must be stretched open. Usually it tears and there is a little blood and pain. I find the best approach is to have the woman squat above the man, who lies on his back. She is facing him and she lowers herself onto his penis. She controls the degree of penetration and will take it slowly, even stop-start a few times. Lots of lubrication is needed. if necessary wet the penis with saliva or gel. When she is ready she will probably do a sudden little thrust and its done. He should participate actively thoughout this by continuing to stroke, caress and knead her body and breasts, but please avoid thrusting upwards.

Hymens that don't break are a problem, if very uncommon. Stretching them with fingers can work. Go slowly. Sometimes they must be snipped by a medical professional.

Remember contraception. Skin on skin is nicest for honeymoons so pills, creams, foams are good, but HIV tests are sensible before non-barrier contraception.

Sex after Pregnancy: A Man's Perspective

What do guys think about sex once baby is born? Get his point of view on when it's safe to revisit sex, what to expect, and how to proceed with Mom in mind.


One day my college-age sister was helping our mom rearrange her study, and to her abject horror, she found a book titled Sex after Fifty on top of a box of other books.

"Go ahead, have a look at it," my mom urged, grinning strangely. My sister declined, but Mom insisted until finally Kelli flipped open the book and peered through one squinted eye at a completely blank page. All the pages were, in fact, blank. To her great relief, it was a gag gift book.

The point of this story will not be lost on any man whose partner has just had a baby. Over the next six weeks or so the story of his sex life will read like the back of a yellow sticky tab. Given his lack of control over her recovery and his own possible feelings of loss as the newborn takes center stage, the lack of sex can be tough for a guy to handle in a way that doesn't drive the couple apart. This article discusses important physical and emotional considerations for this pivotal time in a couple's relationship.

Physical Aspects
Because having babies is so natural and common, many guys have difficulty appreciating just how dramatically a woman's body changes even after the birth and recovery. This lack of awareness may be due in part to the stereotypical male mentality of ignoring those problems we can't fix, and also to a simple lack of physiological knowledge.

Jay from Toronto relates, "I think that during and after the pregnancy I was a good guy in understanding what her body was going through (I went through a couple years in med school before we married), so it was obvious to me that she wouldn't be ready for vaginal sex the week after giving birth. Strangely enough this is not always obvious to guys. My big brother thought that with both his kids, once they were out everything should be back to normal."

Although individual circumstances vary, the typical medical recommendation is for a six-week waiting period before sex after childbirth. Since that can seem like a terribly long time for a guy, here's how to explain some of the physical reasons for the wait in ways that will help him cope.