How to Get Noticed by a Man

Whether you have been playing the field for some time or have recently found yourself single again, you know that it can be tough to catch a man's eye. Perhaps that requires some clarification. It can be difficult sometimes to grab the attention of a man who has captured yours (while the ones you are not interested in seem to come in droves). Learn some ways to get noticed that do not require compromising your morals, beliefs or self-respect

Steps

1. Update your wardrobe. Looking tastefully fresh will attract him and boost your confidence. Take a trusted friend or relative along with you to help you make stylish yet age-appropriate choices. If you have a teen to twenty-something daughter, drag her along. She'll have an eye for what is fashionable and be the first to tell you if it is not suitable for a woman of your "maturity level

2.Strike up a conversation. Rather than waiting for him to approach you, find a reason to talk to him. Try to stay away from inane comments about the weather. Instead, ask him a question that requires an answer to get the dialog rolling. Tell him your brother's birthday is approaching and you'd love to know where he got his shirt. Or, ask him, "Don't you (work/go to school/live) at (fill in the blank)?"

3.Touch him casually. When you are having a conversation, lightly place your hand on his arm as you laugh or let him in on a secret.
4.Have a life. Find things that interest you and that you feel passionate about and get involved in them. This makes you interesting and attractive, and provides opportunities to meet men who are like-minded.

5.Give a big, natural smile with your teeth showing each time you pass him. Make sure you look into his eyes, as well. This body language will give him the message that you are a warm, receptive person

How to Compliment a Man Who Catches Your Eye

A cute guy has just entered the café. What do you do? A straightforward compliment can lead to a beautiful friendship - or at least brighten his day.

Cheating boyfriend

My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 9 years now. He has admitted that he has commitment issues and i know he is cheating with one of his employees. I have seen the text msg that she sent him. I want to confront him but i don't know what to do. This is the first time i will have to confront a cheating boyfriend. Help

Streakers Love Story

Life is so unfair and mean

I'm so confussed on what to do. OK, I'm 25 yrs old & I'm with a 46 yr old man. It's been 2 yrs. He don't work, he doesn't have his own place and no car. I do everything for us. Recently I met this 29year old guy who is cute, tall and sexy. He is so much interested in me. My current 46yr old boy friend was just diagnosed with cancer and I cant abandon him. I want to have a family and he cant at this time what should I do...Please help me

Love is blind

Last year, I met a guy in my working place and I started to fall in love with him. I fell in love with him because he was so caring and nice. We started hanging out together and that's how our relationship started. Now I just found out that he is talking to his ex girlfriend. I have already had sex with him. What advice do you give me

WHAT IS LOVE?

Hello my dear followers of TLL, we have been MIA for a minute. I hope you are all faring well.
I ask the question above because from different cultures, tradition, religion or what ever the case may be, we all have one common denominator, Love. Why is that? and if that word love exists and is so important that means it came from a source. Do you believe GOD IS LOVE? if so why try to love without Him, if now what do you believe? and is it working for you so far. At least I hope so.
We will not get into a religous debate but here is something I will like to share with you. Please as you read. Imagine yourself not giving but recieving all of these words from someone. Someone you really love and imagine their reaction, how good they feel, knowing that you recieved in appreciation and seeing what it does for you. Now, ask yourself, can you give to that someone in the same measure? with out holding anything. With none the words inbetween such as "But" or "Its different" Just loving.
Now for a disclaimer, I understand some situations are cannot be the same as others. Remember I said someone you love that loves you too. Then Imagine giving that kind of love to someone you do not know, just because. "...if I have the gift of knowlege, all mysteries, speak in tongues of men and angels or have a faith that can move mountains, even give all I have to the poor but have no love, I am nothng. LOVE is patient, kind, is not jealous, does ...not boast, not proud, not rude, not selfish, not easily angered, It holds no record of wrong, does not delight in evil but rejoices in the truth. It always protects, hopes, always trusts, always perseveres, Love never fails and these three remain, Faith, Hope and Love and the greatest of these is Love.We will never be perfect in all these things, but the closer to it we get the better our lives and our relationships. A powerful line of poetry from the creator of LOVE.

IN-LAWS and your relationship...

...Have you been an in-law or are you experiencing the beauty of one? It has been known world wide that IN-LAWS take most relationships to a dead end. Why do you think they are usually difficult to deal with? Some people have had great in-law experiences but others have been and are still going through the nightmares of it. Share your thoughts on how to respond to in-laws who control your relationships and what makes it work if you have not had the bad side of it.

HARD TO GET!!!

Why is it necessary to play hard to get and what are some of the advantages and disadvantages? share your thoughts and comments and please follow the blog.


The more the merrier.
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Joke of the day: She tricked him

One day this girl, who is wearing a skirt, goes out to play with her friends. She goes to the park and meets a boy. They talk about climbing trees. The boy says to the girl: "Go on climb that tree."The girls climbs up and the boy just stands there and looks up to the girls pants. After a while the girl goes home and tells her mum about what happened. Her mum says: "oh my stupid girl he just stood there and watched your pants."The next day she went out again with her skirt on and met THAT boy again. He told her to climb again and she did.when she got home she tells her mum what happened again and her mum says: "My stupid girl he just stood there and watched your pants."The girl replied and said: "No actually I tricked him, this time i did not wear any pants!"

Male assertiveness

A mild-mannered man was tired of being bossed around by his wife so he went to a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist said he needed to build his self-esteem, and so gave him a book on assertiveness, which he read on the way home. He had finished the book by the time he reached his house. The man stormed into the house and walked up to his wife. Pointing a finger in her face, he said, "From now on, I want you to know that I am the man of this house, and my word is law! I want you to prepare me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I'm finished eating my meal, I expect a sumptuous dessert afterward. Then, after dinner, you're going to draw me my bath so I can relax. And when I'm finished with my bath, guess who's going to dress me and comb my hair?" "The funeral director," said his wife

When Nature gets in the way!!

How do you deal with a partner you love so dearly, that snores so badly that you cant sleep at night and they do not think they do snore. You do not want to hurt their feelings.
Or one with the funkiest morning breath?

Share your thoughts and comments.

TEMPTATIONS!!!!

"You are at a candle lit dinner with your beau or husband, deep in conversation and a beautiful girl walks in and casts a familiar glance at him with a smile as she walks past your table. He smiles right back and stays in the moment that you had to snap your fingers to bring back his attention. You ask if he knows her and he said no. You have always believed him, but you are not sure what to think at the moment. What would be your first reaction and how would you handle the situation?"

Love is our common defining Factor

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Whether we agree or not, LOVE is a defining factor in everybody's life. Whatever, race, religion or culture we come from. When we discover a place where we can find solace, love and comfort, it breaks down all our barriers and we tend to be very attracted to it. When we are given a chance to express those feelings, by fear of our own lack of capacity or some societal standards, we become defensive and judgemental. Then we find something or someone to blame as an exit strategy.

Regardless or our status or qualifications, rich or poor, fame or not, we all have one breaking force: LOVE, which brings out our most sensitive, insecure and unexpected side besides the undescribable bliss that comes with it. Therefore, permit me to say, There is no such thing as a "Perfect man" or a "Perfect woman". However, we can chose to define our value of perfection based on our needs.
If we learn to love what we hate in our partner, it will help us understand them better, and deal with the situation much easier when ever it arises. That one person we usually love to hate so much, who is the reason for all our problems and all our friends and family know them to be inhuman and not deserving of love, will be seen sooner or later in a thriving relationship. Why? They will either learn to deal with their problems or find someone who will understand them and deal with their short comings or both.
Again, if we learn to love what we hate in our partner, it will help us understand them better and deal with the situation much easier. That is one of the greatest compromise in a relationship.

I say this because when we remove the word "EXPECTATION" from the equation, all we have left is someone who wants to be genuinely loved and understood in the way THEY know it to be and not just OUR way. Most of the time we speak the same thing in different languages and character.

Now I am sure that statement comes with a lot of concern and difference in situations. Still I would say, even the biggest player or cheat, the worse criminal, that angry and obnoxious person, the biggest idiot...you name it. All of these people want love and they will give it if ONLY they understood how to get it.
Have you not that it is hard for some people to recieve a huge gift from someone when they know they will hardly be able to afford such a gift to another.
One of our biggest problem is relationships is the "ME" factor.
What to I get, my needs, my image, my feelings...Yes we need to be acknowledged in our relationships and that is why we get into them in the first place. Its all tied in one twisted form of GIVING.

In my experience, Love is about giving without expecting something back. What a joke right?
Don't read too far from the statement. It does not mean we will not get something back. It just means that what we do not define what we recieve in our own terms. It is usually a common reciprocal but the unxpected is often more beautiful than the expected (which is hardly satisfactory).
Giving is like sowing a seed and watching it grow until harvest.
I will elaborate on that in a future update.

At The Love Lounge, we will touch on some of the most sensitive and commonly ignored issues in relationships such as;

- Dealing with our own insecurities and challenges without playing the blame game
- Loving someone even though you know they are not right for you
- Staying in abused relationships
- Why should I forgive so many times
- Single parent dating
- Inter racial dating
- Is it Love or just infatuation?
- Loving yourself
- When the sparks are gone
- Career women and men with lower income
- Imposed perks and societal standards we are forced to live with
- When trus is lost
- The games WE play
- Weight issues, health and wellness in relationships.
- Accumulated anger and frustrations

...and so forth

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