KNOWING WHEN TO LET GO…

I think that we women have to start slowing down and really pay attention to what’s happening with us. We can’t let our biological clocks dictate who we end up with. Just because we think we should be married with children by a certain age doesn’t mean that life is actually going to work out that way. In our day and age when women are just as busy as the men, and putting their careers before they decide on starting a family, marriage and children seem to come a lot later than the old days. But ladies, once we have reached where we want to be in life, and we start that pursuit of finding the best suited man, give yourself time to really test a person and make sure that what you want is what you get. Sometimes the best gifts aren’t always in the prettiest wrapping paper. Have you ever reached into a box of chocolates and you bite in it to find that it wasn’t filled with chewy caramel and nuts like you wanted, but it was a bitter chocolate with something not so good in the middle? Don’t let that be the tale of your love life.

I am a firm believer that with every action there is a reaction as well as everything happens for a reason. When ladies reach a certain age we start getting the “itch” the “wedding itch” and the “baby itch” and when we don’t have those things, we start looking for prospects. In that process of narrowing down prospects that we would consider marriage and children with we look at our immediate resources, someone from our past, people we’re currently dating and maybe even our co-workers or maybe friends to hook us up. In that group, we weed out the good from the bad and hone in on our prey. And sometimes we get so caught up in our search to satisfy that “itch” that we pick what we think is right but in fact if we were really paying attention, we’d realize that it really wasn’t.

I am a Jealous girlfriend!!!!!

I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now…about 1 yr & 4months.we dated about 3 months (too soon maybe?) after a bad breakup where the guy cheated on me & that took sometime to really heal. I am 28my current boyfriend is 30. He hasnt been anything but good to me in everyway. The truth is he’s my heart. He has alot of friends who are girls and it drives me nuts. They always drop messages on his facebook wall.I have never met them except for three of them…but of course he talks about them…alot…and sometimes he’ll mention how pretty some girl is.random girls…hell sometimes celebrities or watever and it really tears me I mean i know he loves me.I know am the one he wants to be with…and that he would never purposely hurt me.I trust him,but i still feel envious.I know I am being immature and stupid. Maybe even controlling? so please dont remind me how stupid I am. I just want to be happy with him.I want to get over this. its hurting me and even worse its hurting him. Please share how u would get over this. what do i do

Why Do We Lie to Those We Love

Initially most people avoid looking for deception by a loved one. But as you begin to examine your own behavior more closely it becomes harder to dismiss the degree to which lies, betrayal, secrecy and deceit are ever present in our close relationships. Hopefully, you will take on a greater appreciation for the complexities of your relationships as well as a richer understanding of what it means to be in love. Regardless of the final outcome, taking a close look at deception in your life will change the way you view yourself and others.

Our romantic relationships are seldom what they seem. We all want a relationship that is built on openness, intimacy, and trust, but the truth is, our relationships do not always work that way. More often than not, our intimate relationships involve secrecy and deceit. In fact, if you want to look for deception and betrayal in your own life, the best place to start is close to home. Husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends, often lie about their true feelings for each other, the feelings they have for others, and their level of commitment. Indeed, it is safe to say that people save their biggest and most serious lies for those they love.

For better or worse, our romantic relationships are full of paradoxes which we try to overlook, downplay and ignore. For the most part, this strategy works well. Until the day comes when it doesn't, and with little warning or preparation we have to confront face-on the reality that our close relationships are not exactly what they appear to be.

Eventually, almost everyone will catch a spouse or partner in one of their lies. Inevitably, we have a difficult time coping with what we have learned and dealing with the fact that someone close has betrayed our trust. We do not expect our partners to mislead us, nor do we have insight into how and why deception occurs.

On and off relationships

I just got out of an on and off relationship of ten years. I'm 26 years old and very frustrated. Every time we break up, 2 or 3 months pass by and he comes back. Of course, I go back. It is very unhealthy for me because it makes me feel worthless. I know I am not ugly, I can actually say I'm attractive. I say this because there are lot of guys interested but I can't seem to move on. That does not help my self-esteem though. When I am not with him, I tend to get very depressed and you might say suicidal. All I wasn't to do is sleep so I won't have to think about it. I take sleeping pills so I won't have to feel this pain I'm going through. There's been times that I've taken so many pills that I can't feel my body anymore. How can I get over this, I've tried going to a therapist but it did not help me at all

Symptoms of Tigerwoodilizing ( Cheating)

My boyfriend and I recently threw a party. As the party was winding down at 2am, I headed for bed while my boyfriend saw the last few people to the door. I heard whispering, went to investigate and found my boyfriend in the kitchen with his so-called female 'friend', kissing and fondling her and saying how much he missed her. Once I made my presence known, she ran out and he tried to play the whole thing down. The next day, he apologised, and blamed it on the alcohol. But I cannot get the picture of the two of them together out of my head. I'm having trouble trusting him. Should he be trusted

Why do men like big breasts

It's a fact: people in America, and not just men, idolize big breasts. Every year, American women spend millions of dollars on breast implants, cosmetic procedures to improve their breasts, breast enlargement pills, pumps and creams.

Considering the role that big breasts play in our culture and society, the amount time, energy, money and emotion that goes into breast enlargement seems justified.

But why do men like big breasts? You may be surprised to learn that not all men like big breasts (and we're not talking about gay men) - that the male fascination with massive mammaries is relatively recent, and is a localized phenomenon.

Please share you views

The best way to ensure pain free sex

The best way to ensure pain free sex is for both partners to relax and take their time. Having sex does not usually hurt, though first time sex may be a bit uncomfortable for a woman because her hymen (a thin layer of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina) may be stretched or torn. This may cause a little bleeding, but it does not usually last long. Sex is not usually painful for a man.

After the first time, sex should become more comfortable. The vagina is very stretchy and will usually accommodate a penis (even a large one) with ease. However, a woman may experience pain when having sexual intercourse if her vagina does not produce enough natural lubrication. Extra vaginal fluids are usually produced when a woman becomes sexually excited to allow the penis to enter the vagina easily. If a woman is tense or rushing when she has sex, her vagina may not become moist enough to allow the penis to move in and out smoothly. Stress can also cause the muscles in the vagina to involuntarily tense up, making penetration difficult and painful. The best way to ensure pain free sex is for both partners to relax and take their time.

Extra lubrication might also help, and can be bought from many chemists and some supermarkets. When using a condom, it is very important that a water-based lubricant (like KY jelly) is used, as oil-based lubricants like Vaseline can cause the condom to disintegrate.

Making the Choice of having kids

I am in my mid-twenties and have never really wanted kids. I met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with a few years ago and I know that he wants to be a father somewhere down the line. While I know that it's still possible I will change my mind (and that I am more open to suggestion having met him) it concerns me what might happen if I don't.

The Story of A Valentine's Kiss

SINGLE BLACK FEMALE seeks male companionship for Valentine's day, ethnicity unimportant. I'm a very good kisser, and a girl who LOVES to play. I love long walks in the woods, riding in your pickup truck, hunting, camping and fishing trips, cosy winter nights lying by the fire. Candlelight dinners will have me eating out of your hand. Kiss me the right way and watch me respond. I'll be at the front door when you get home from work, wearing only what nature gave me. Kiss me and I'm yours. Call (405) 865-5675 and ask for Daisy.

Over 12,000 'Romeos' phoned and found themselves talking to the Memphis Humane Society about an 7-week old Labrador retriever dog.

Men are so easy....

Read Handed Valentine

Two years ago on Valentine's Day my boyfriend I'd been dating for only six months had to work so I asked him if he wanted to go to lunch somewhere. He said he couldn't because he had something to do.

So, I said OK because I figured he had to go somewhere to get my valentines gift or something like that. So I called him on his cell phone but he did not answer it, which was odd because he always had it with him and always answered it, especially during his lunch break.

So I went to my house and grabbed his Valentines gift and was going to go to his work and wait for him to get back from lunch and surprise him with it. Well, when I got there his truck was in the parking lot so I thought he was already back. So I went inside to talk to him but he was not there, so I figured he had gone with one of his friends which he often did.

So I was sitting in my car parked next to his truck waiting for him to get back. After a couple of minutes a white car pulled into the parking lot that looked like the car one of my female co-workers drove.

As it drove nearer it pulled up and I could see that he was in the passenger seat. I got out of my car and walked over to the vehicle. I was furious and so was she after we finally got everything out of him.

He was still trying to lie his way out of it even though we had caught him red handed. It turns he had been dating her for the last four of the six months that he had been dating me.

My co-worker and I were pretty good acquaintances at work only, but we never really discussed our personal life with each other so neither of us had any idea.

So from then on we agreed to at least introduce our boyfriends to each other so this would never happen again, at least with her and me. Needless to say we both returned the valentines gift we had got for him.

No more valentine's day secrets

I dated the same guy all through high school (I know big mistake... and of course it WAS a big mistake!) Anyway, one day I got to my lunch table and there was a bouquet of flowers waiting for me. The tag said "I know you have a boyfriend, but I just wanted to see you smile. From your secret admirer" Of course I was looking around the cafeteria grinning like a Cheshire cat trying to see if I could catch the culprit.

Later that day, my boyfriend found out about the flowers and decided that I must be cheating on him! I finally convinced him that I wasn't, but found out that he had to work on Valentine's Day.

So my cousin and I went out for dinner on V-Day since she didn't have a boyfriend and mine was busy. When we got to the restaurant and were waiting to be seated, who walked through the door? Of course, my soon-to-be EX-boyfriend with his arm around another girl... pay back as he called it!

I was heart-broken at the time, but I still have the rose that was in that bouquet and the card that came with it. If it wasn't for my "secret admirer" I may not have met the man I love so much today. I told him that I had never had a good Valentine's day and he has done everything he can to make it one of the most special days of the year for me. We are getting married in May... thanks (in part) to my secret admirer, whoever he was!

Would You Marry Someone Out Of Pity

Marrying out of pity is never the best, the real Love has to prevail. A lot of people had been brain-washed to take this wrong step. Let me share a scenario with youThere is this lady who lost her track due to a distant relationship problem, she was lured into a new one when it was even less than 3 months to her wedding with the original guy.When she was asked why she just messed up things and why wouldn't she consider her staying with the old guy who is now ready to marry her ? She said this new guy lost a lady two years ago to another man and he's been so down till he met her now she wouldn't want to break his heart as well( PITY OF COURSE) even though she still loves the other guy.Never you try that , marry in love not in pity, the aftermath of a wrong descision is always

Women 'Pickier Than Men' About One-Night Stands

Women are far more choosy about casual sex than men, who don't specially care whether a woman is moderately or exceptionally attractive as long as she hops into bed, new research says.But German men are pickier than Americans and Italians in that order about who they spend a night in bed with, according to psychological research from Britain's Brunel University published in the journal Human Nature.

In the study, Achim Schutzwohl and his colleagues asked more than 400 male and 400 female students in the US, Germany and Italy to judge the role played by physical attractiveness in their willingness to go out with someone, go to their flat, or go to bed with them.The imaginary members of the opposite sex asking for favours were ranked either "slightly unattractive", "moderately attractive" or "exceptionally attractive"."Looks affected men and women differently," the research team said.

For all three offers, men were more likely to accept when the woman was moderately or exceptionally attractive, but it made no difference whether she was little or very appealing.Women on the other hand were more likely to go to a man's flat or agree to go to bed if he was exceptionally attractive."While men are not entirely insensitive to their requestor's attractiveness, women have higher standards," the authors concluded.