· Expanding unconditional love; for yourself and for your spouse and for God.
· Finding the right perspective. The woman should be a positive influence to the man's authority without pride.
· Practicing good communication. No one said it is easy but it grows with time and all it takes is trying and being considerate.
· Being God-centered. God created LOVE, only Gods can fix any broken pieces. Any attempt to change it around only last for a little while but when the storm comes, giving up is the best uption when GOD is not involved.
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
The glue that holds a marriage together is unconditional love, but it is rare glue with secret ingredients that run contrary to our human nature. The secret ingredients are acceptance, understanding and tolerance of human differences, especially when they go against our sense of fundamental fairness, core values, important expectations, strong preferences, and basic ways of thinking, acting and being.
We first learn that unconditional love is real and not an imaginary myth, during the presence of children, soul mates and pets. Love is truly unconditional in these interactions; they are free and easy. This phase of unconditional love probably happens just to coax us into wanting more of it in our relationships, where there is no shortage of obstacles working against it.
Expanding your capacity for unconditional love is a lifelong quest that has to be done one experience at a time. In an odd sense, the heart’s capacity grows through hurt and bleeding. Knowing these realities makes it a little easier, but unfortunately there are no shortcuts here. This is without a doubt a marriage’s toughest test that the majority of people fail. Probably the best way to make headway is to realize the amazing unconditional love God has given to us with our life and free will. There are very few fatal conditions, mostly just temporary detours.
2 comments:
Question: where do u draw the line between being accepting, understanding and tolerant and being FOOLISH? Wats the price one pays for unconditional love? is it worth it? They say 'activity is not directly proportional to productivity' where is the guarantee that this will lead to a better marriage? I mean really all this understanding and tolerating might just encourage your partner to get worse......
Mimi, have you ever noticed that every body wants the perfect wedding with a pastor/priest or someone to conduct the vows of the couple before God and man and the only time most of these couples ever get to see the priest again is at a funeral or from the pulpit in a church. Why is it that they cannot go back to that priest and say help. If we are true to ourselves enough we will be able to distingush foolishness from its alternative.
If you did not know the person you married, then missed on a major factor in your relationship and you may want to revisit it.
Granted we all want to feel like the captain in our own ship and we got it under control, we always forget a little fact...think before you act. We do not always know everything. The moment we stop being considerate, tension takes control of the situation.
These words will not work for 100% of the world, but a majority of people will find common gound and fit it into their own system.
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