I think that we women have to start slowing down and really pay attention to what’s happening with us. We can’t let our biological clocks dictate who we end up with. Just because we think we should be married with children by a certain age doesn’t mean that life is actually going to work out that way. In our day and age when women are just as busy as the men, and putting their careers before they decide on starting a family, marriage and children seem to come a lot later than the old days. But ladies, once we have reached where we want to be in life, and we start that pursuit of finding the best suited man, give yourself time to really test a person and make sure that what you want is what you get. Sometimes the best gifts aren’t always in the prettiest wrapping paper. Have you ever reached into a box of chocolates and you bite in it to find that it wasn’t filled with chewy caramel and nuts like you wanted, but it was a bitter chocolate with something not so good in the middle? Don’t let that be the tale of your love life.
I am a firm believer that with every action there is a reaction as well as everything happens for a reason. When ladies reach a certain age we start getting the “itch” the “wedding itch” and the “baby itch” and when we don’t have those things, we start looking for prospects. In that process of narrowing down prospects that we would consider marriage and children with we look at our immediate resources, someone from our past, people we’re currently dating and maybe even our co-workers or maybe friends to hook us up. In that group, we weed out the good from the bad and hone in on our prey. And sometimes we get so caught up in our search to satisfy that “itch” that we pick what we think is right but in fact if we were really paying attention, we’d realize that it really wasn’t.
I am a firm believer that with every action there is a reaction as well as everything happens for a reason. When ladies reach a certain age we start getting the “itch” the “wedding itch” and the “baby itch” and when we don’t have those things, we start looking for prospects. In that process of narrowing down prospects that we would consider marriage and children with we look at our immediate resources, someone from our past, people we’re currently dating and maybe even our co-workers or maybe friends to hook us up. In that group, we weed out the good from the bad and hone in on our prey. And sometimes we get so caught up in our search to satisfy that “itch” that we pick what we think is right but in fact if we were really paying attention, we’d realize that it really wasn’t.
7 comments:
I strongly agree with you. Life is not only about what society demands from us. Individual happiness should be our premodial objective. Many individuals are trapped in this marriage ideology and end up marrying dumb bags
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I strongly agree with you. Life is not only about what society demands from us. Individual happiness should be our premodial objective. Many individuals are trapped in this marriage ideology and end up marrying dumb bags
Does this apply to men? I think men get the itch too, albeit later than women but they do get the itch. I think evryone should be diligent and self-controlled about their decisions. We should all stop making emotional choices and start making realistic choices......
I couldn't agree anymore with this article. Ladies, our sisters and mothers before us have made this same mistake and I bet a lot of us have at least one woman or friend we know who is in the wrong marriage today with loads of regrets because of this same ideology. We land ourselves in all the wrong relationships and won't let go all in the name of "my biological clock is ticking." It's true we all want to get married someday with a loving and caring husband and all the babies in the world but we must not settle for less because we think we do not have time on our side. As much as divorce is an option nowadays, it's still best and the sanest thing to get married and stay married. Not only is the divorce process a nightmare but even after you get your freedom, you are back to exactly where you started; but the only difference this time is, you have reduced your chances of finding a good husband thanks to the "Divorcee" word now hanging over your head. So why not take your time, get your relationship right then settle and make it a lifetime.
MMM...I totally agree. I think you have to be with someone whom you have chemistry with in all aspects of everyday living not just in the bedroom, although that tends to be is a major breakdown in a lot of relationships. I'm just saying
I agree with all the above comments. This is a very good post and it just made my day.
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