I happened to have a one night stand (my first one) and this guy has continued to message me and I've been messaging him back. I am feeling like I really could like him and I may have ruined any chances of something deeper because I slept with him the way I did. Is there any way this could work? Is this salvageable
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Most guys out there are keen on one night stands so a woman who is up for one is going to be welcomed by most men
In my opinion, a one night stand will hamper any possibility of a serious relationship in the future. This off course can be argued. We need to define a "relationship" in this instance. Are we talking about a purely sexual relationship aka "friends with benefits" or a traditional relationship where "boy meets girl"? If it is the latter then most men will feel unchallenged and will tend to look for some other woman who sets their hearts racing by playing "hard to get' or any other mind games to keep men interested in a long term relationship.
Let's face it, sex is a physical act, being hungry and thirsty are also physical acts. Some people seem to think otherwise, which in my opinion is misguided. Sex and love are completely two different things. In most cases when a man has a one night stand with a woman, he simply satisfies his sexual appetite and once that is done he wants to leave. The same can apply to women who are also merely interested in the sexual act to please themselves. To put it bluntly, during one night stands, we look at our sexual partner as a "piece of meat". In the end, the only people that usually get hurt by one night stands are those who are expecting more than just sex out of them
one night stands merely make us all more miserable
Well you have already had a one night stand. Does not mean it is too late or you can not start a relationship. You can always start again without sex. Dinner, movie, date, get to know each other, etc. You can start again
It is not a one nite stand if you two continue to communicate after. So You had sex on the very first date, so what?. Obviously he liked the fact that you allowed yourself to enjoy the date and you felt sexualy and physically attracted to him. So stop fretting about it and if he wants your communications to continue, then give the man a chance.
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